I lost my partner suddenly overnight in january he was 36 we have 2 children togeather one 2 and the other is 12. This will be our first christmas without him and was just wondering if anyone has any advice. Honestly i wish i could sleep all day and just act like its a nornal day but i have to keep it as nornal as possiable for the children. Just the thought of doing all the traditons we used to do is already making me so sad. Also we will be visiting family and just seeing people as a family unit and celebrating with thier partners is making me just want to stay in. Any advice of how others have tackled this would be such a big help as i dont want to be breaking down in front of the kids. Thank you x
First one for me too, having lost my partner in January and a lot of us on here, it will be the first one. I have been very unsettled about it. I will just take it as it comes. It will never be the same. Everything has changed. It’ll be what it’ll be. I will cry, that’s guaranteed and there’s no harm in your children seeing you get upset. You’ve lost the love of your life and you’re kids have lost their hero. It will be sad but hopefully you’ll have some good times too x
hi @brown87 i am so so sorry your going through this… i lost shaun 6th september. he turned 40 in july, we had been together 20 years, got 3 children 9,16,19 and this is going to be the hardest xmas ever!! i know what you mean about trying to keep things normal for the kids etc, i’m struggling with that too. all i want to do is stay in bed and hide away but i know i can’t… i look around at everyone so happy and excited for xmas and i just can’t wait for it to be over… always here if you want to talk xx
Hi @Ali29 @brown87
First Christmas for me too.
Last year we celebrated together in Australia. This year it will be here on my own.
We thought we would have many years left my husband took early retirement in Feb and was gone in June.
Without him is hard every day but Christmas Birthdays Anniversaries day we met day he died funeral dates all extra special. Wish he was still here but not to be guess i just survive each day who knows whats ahead cant plan anymore.
Im so sorry for your loss its the worst pain ever isnt it especially when you have children that rely on you now for everything . They are the reason i get out of bed everyday otherwise i think thats where i would still be. Sending you love and hugs xx
same! if it wasn’t for them i’d of given up by now… we have no choice but to keep getting up and getting through this awful nightmare for them
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Hi @brown87 I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my partner who was 42 in October so am facing the same as you and many on here. I wish I could sleep through it all but have 2 girls albeit teenagers but they still want to celebrate so some how I have to do it for them and also Lee’s parents. I am trying to do everything different from the norm, I don’t know if it will be easier or not but the thought of doing anything like we have and not having Lee with us breaks my heart. I want to spend as much time with his parents talking about past times and celebrating his life without amplifying the empty void his lack of being there will have. I don’t know how I’m going to even buy anything as wrap them atm because I just end up crying. This is so cruel, sending hugs your way x
Just ask yourself what would he like to see you and the kids doing he would want you to do something that makes you happy.God Bless.
I,m dreading Christmas this year as its my first one without my beautiful gorgeous wife.my daughter and stepson dave plus family
keeping me going when all I want to do is give up