2 years on and it still feels like the day

I lost my brother very suddenly two years ago. I still feel as if no time has passed at all. Life has never been the same - I haven’t felt joy since. It is like being stuck in a dark room with no sense. I don’t know how to feel better.

I’m so sorry to hear that you lost your brother two years ago and that you feel stuck in your grief. There is no set timeline on grief, and it can last much longer than people expect. However, one thing that can help is to have outlets to talk about your feelings, rather than bottling them up.

I’m glad that you’ve joined this Online Community, as writing things down here can be a good way to get things off your chest. You are among people who understand here. While you wait for more replies to your post, you may find it helpful to have a look at this conversation, where you can find Catherine1 and Sister2, who have also both lost a sibling: https://support.sueryder.org/community/coping-bereavement/my-sister. Feel free to post a reply there if you’d like to talk more to either of them.

If you feel you might benefit from the additional support, we also have a free online bereavement counselling service. Find out more here: https://support.sueryder.org/bereavement-counselling

You may also find it helpful to take a look at our information page How long does grief last?

If there is anything I can help with, or you have any questions about the Online Community, you can email me on online.community@sueryder.org.