After 2 years I still miss my wife. I am very lucky I have lots of friends and been on a lot of short holidays. But when you get home to an empty house is awful. Would meeting someone else help? I don’t think so I would feel so guilty is that just being silly? How do people move on to another partner what’s their emotions ?
One year for me i know what you mean about the empty house as for finding someone else no way i would think that would be so disrespectful to my wife also i couldn’t live with the guilt i am just getting used to being on my own but at the same time still have a cry especially when i wake-up every morning stay strong we will get there
Hi
Yes getting used to being on your own is so very hard. It has only been 5 months since my husband passed away i miss him every day and i will do till i die.
I try so hard to keep busy during the day exercise class choir going for coffee at garden centres being on my own not quite the same but at least i can see life goes on.
Like everyone it is the silence at home which upsets me. No one to ask what he thinks no shared meals no one to help me around the house holidays day trips all different on your own. I retired last year so no work to keep me occupied. I used to work for Macmillan cancer volunteering in libraries but since he passed i could not do it. Maybe i need to look at other charities to give my time to.
I hope it becomes more bearable in time but im not sure it will.
Carrying on my conversation people are telling me it’s time to move on after 2 years. Maybe they are right obviously it’s easier said than done but maybe we shouldn’t wallow in self pity but they are not in our situation so many ifs and buts I can’t forget about my wife but would it help me I don’t what to do . Our partners would say get on with life once again easier said than done. God life is a mess !
Hi @Kwent
Yes life is a bit if a mess.
Trying to live this new life we now find ourselves with
I try to keep busy during the week joined exercise class book club choir and even tried some line dancing (just not me !)
This week been stuck at home with a virus so not out this week. I am feeling a bit sorry for myself. I have my usual check at hospital (3monthly check) had cancer scare 2 years back he would have gone with me to appointment but now i have to go on my own so that will be hsrd next month.
Hope tomorrow is a better day and i am not so upset.