Been 6weeks how do you
cope
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@Claire7 its very early days for you! It is 6 months for me tomorrow! I remember those truly awful days at the beginning. We keep going until the funeral with so much to do and organise! I found the paperwork itself a massive undertaking at a time I couldn’t think straight! I still have bad days now but I also have some good ones! Reach out to whoever offers you help and support! This group has been a great comfort to me as I feel the people on here understand. J x
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Its been nearly six months since I lost my husband to suicide. In the first few months my friends were great and really rallied round but, inevitably, this has tailed off now. I wouldn’t go so far as saying I’m coping but keeping myself busy helps. It’s when my head empties at night that I crash and have a meltdown so I use this time to write a journal. I got upset one day in the spring when a heron flew over the garden and I couldn’t tell him about it. That’s when I decided to tell him all the things I’d normally tell him, but through a journal, and I write down all the pain and heartache, it helps to get it out. I also try and write down a least one positive from my day, no matter how small. You just have to keep soldiering on, take the help when its offered, and accept that some days will be awful, some will be okay, and just try to keep going.
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I am so sorry for your loss.l am now 10 months down the line & that intense pain of those early weeks have subsided.you will be feeling lost & overwhelmed.all totally natural.there is nothing l can say to take your pain away at this point.just keep it in the day & dont look to far ahead.be kind to yourself & accept all the help you can get.& keep posting on here.no matter how you feel.as l found this site a life saver.as people do understand as we have all been through it.Sending you love & light XX
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It’s such early days for you . I remember them when I was so afraid and my stomach was in knots . There is nothing that can ease your pain but be kind to yourself. Take each hour as it comes and reach out for support. My love and hugs to you
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@Claire7 by crying, screaming shouting sleeping
And you can start a diary and talk to him through that, don’t focus on the future, just focus on the now and getting through the next hour. Make a list of things you need to do and tackle one at a time. I was 57 when my partner died, he was 49, no warning at all, it was like he was just switched off. Standing one minute, dead the next.
The early days are bloody hard but 8 months in I have good days most of the time, I still miss him but you know he’s not coming back. You have to decide whether you sink or swim life goes on for us, we have to make the most of it. Keep reaching out on here, it’s a good place for support x
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