Why is it still so hard for to get on with my life,
since my wife passed away.
I find it so tough coming home to an empty house,after work.
I still find it hard going shopping, going pass the food I used to get her.
I would appreciate any advice.
I have not done this before,so I don’t know if I have done this right.
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Yes Phil, you have done it right. My GP told me the 6 months mark would be hard and it’s common to be a difficult time, however she didn’t explain why.
What was your wife like and how long were you together?
I’m 9 months in 5 days. Life is ok, I have good moments and I’m in a good place, for now. It can change at any moment.
Sorry you’re in this club but keep reaching out because there’s a lot of support here.
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@Phillbutt100 Hi, welcome to here, it’s a shit place to be but we’re all going through it. 11 months for me and I’m still getting used to being on my own, it’s eased a lot in the last couple of months, talking on here has helped me a lot. If that’s not your bag, I wasn’t sure at first, then read some of the posts. There’s a lot to relate to and for me it really helped. It’s the best advice I can offer
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Thanks Ali for replying.
My wife was my best friend, we was together for 25 yrs we got married on May 03rd and My wife passed away on May 4th 25 yrs later.
I hope this site will help a lot.
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Hi Walan.
Thanks for replying and welcoming me to this site,I am hoping this site help me…
10 months for me @Ali29, im finding these autumn days tough now … missing his company, especially when its bloody raining all day ! xx
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The weather not great but I’m ok at the moment. Today was sunny and makes a difference. I have my wobbles but I’m doing ok. Hope it doesn’t get to bad for you x
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Hi Deb5,
Yeah I know how you feel and it’s going to get worse,especially the early dark evenings.
not looking forward to it x
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Seven months for me. Being strong on the outside, achingly lonely on the inside. Ive moved house so trying to start again in a new village. Feel like i have no place - and home and happiness seems a long time gone. We had 36 years together. I wish i could get them back. Im just existing really. Your’e right - the dark evenings and rain dont help. Im dreading the winter. My man and my cat and my home -all gone in the blink of an eye. I’m very lucky i have good friends and family to help me through but no-one can replace your partner. Sending virtual hugs to all of you. X
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Oh good - im glad youre ok 
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No - its tough … i really noticed him not being here … this time last year we were running around me and my family looking after my beautiful man xxx
I think its difficult to just have yourself to look after when you are so used to looking after someone else too. You had a sort of purpose didnt you? The shopping/food thing is tricky. Food takes a back seat and you just eat to survive rather than actually enjoy eating. I suppose its a case of just taking one day at a time.
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Yeh i was saying that to my daughter. You just don’t eat the same 
i always cooked a good meal but just cant hardly be bothered to cook and yeh they are your purpose … in everything xx
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This page is a real life saver, sad as it is we all share the same tragic experience of loosing our loved ones. No one else can understand how hard this is. Friends and family try their best but get no where near to how it feels. There is lots of advice and support here for us. Keep posting and all the best
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3 months for me i feel like im living a fake life fake smile i hate it i still dont believe this can be happening fed up of being strong all the time its whats expected of me dont want to let my sons down by crumbling because they are hurting too 
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You let go … dont keep it in. Its not good for you … xx
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How old are your sons? Must be difficult holding it together bless you.
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Hi my sons are 22 and 25 the eldest cant handle me getting upset he storms off saying he cant cope with it x
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Ha … well just do it in private then ? In your bedroom ! How is it ok if they fall apart but u cant ? My kids were a bit like that at beginning i just cry on my own now xxx
I know its like we have to put a face on its so hard isnt it it was 3 months last week feel like its been so much longer still think hes going to walk through the door thankyou deb 
xx
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