That’s ok 
I dunno why we have to put a bloody face on ? Its riduculous but i have found people are ridiculous when dealing with loss !!! They just cant handle it ! But we have to dont we ? We dont have much choice ? X
2 Likes
Ok - so if your sons cant handle it - take yourself off somewhere quiet - im watching the sun go down in the garden with a glass of red at the mo - and give yourself a while to reflect and remember. Its my sweethearts memorial tree planting tomorrow - so ive taken time to sit and remember him and grieve in my own way. Be kind to yourself. Xxx
3 Likes
Hope tomorrow goes ok for you what a lovely idea planting a tree. Its so cold outside i hate the dark nights and im dreading Christmas too just want to hide away until its all over xx
1 Like
No we have no choice i thought it was bad when i lost my dad but losing your husband is pain on another level no one understands unless they have been here 
xx
3 Likes
Yeh its the worst pain isnt.it ? I knew it was gonna be hard but not this hard ! Man oh man 
its funny how people never talk about it isnt it ? Bit like child birth - nobody really ever tells you how bad its gonna be !! X
Hi Debs, I don’t think anyone could describe the pain of loosing your partner, no one could believe what you told them. I lost my partner a month ago and have his funeral next week. How am I going to get through that day, I am overwhelmed with grief , the pain is overbearing.
1 Like
I must admit i switched to focussing completely on arranging G’s funeral to get me through that awful day. There were 150 people to ensure he had a bloody good send off bless him. I had to do him proud. So if you can try to think of it as a celebration of a life. He is having a tree planted at his cricket club and another at his golf club. Oddly - im grieving harder now as things subside. You will get through the funeral because you have to. Look around you at all the people who loved him and be proud. You can do it!! Thinking of you xx
2 Likes
You will find the strength from somewhere, honestly you will … and people are kind and respectful on the day xxx
1 Like
My family tell me I have to move on from my wife’s death 6 months on I think they are fed up with me talking about her. She was my wife and best friend for 26 years. She had lung and brain cancer. Her family were not there when I tried to resuscitate her when her lung ruptured through the night. I know they are suffering terribly and I understand that totally but I have to live with that last moment for the rest of my life.
Hi @Bailey2 , it’s 3 months since I lost my husband to liver cancer and thankfully no one has told be to get over it, I don’t think I will ever get over it, how can we ? He was the love of my life and I will always love him. Don’t listen to those who say such things. All the best keep strong x