6 months today since my husband of almost 30 years suddenly left me.
I can’t believe it has been 6 months and how that time has gone by so quick. At the same time it feels like forever since I last saw him.
I always have a knot in my stomach and I avoid thinking he will never come back .
But I am getting on with life, back to work, continue to renovate our bungalow and have planned holidays for next year. I know he would want me to be happy and carry on. I have bad days still, think I always will, but I do have good days and they are becoming more often. I can feel myself getting stronger and coping with things better. I have come to realise who is worth my time and who isn’t and what I want moving forward. The next 6 months I’m going to finish the house, organise flexible retirement and try and spend as much time with my family and friends as possible.
I hope brings some hope to the people who are at the start of their journey x
I love this and I’m doing the same. I still have moments of guilt for carry on but I know deep down here would want me to.
Like you I have put things in place for next year, holidays and I always say yes when invited out.
I am days away from 8 months and I’ve had a tricky week but I’ll get back on it.
Thank you for your post. It gives people hope, especially those at the beginning.
Thank you for your positive post @Lou33. I’m nearly 6 months on this journey and I feel similar to you. More better days than months ago and feel I’m coping better. Trying to forge a life and find happiness again. Like @Ali29 says your post gives hope to those earlier on their journey and struggling.
Hi @Ali29 and @Jan17. Thank you! I still feel guilt too but think I have got to the point where I want to live and have fun times again. I too always accept invitations out and look forward to them. Sorry you have had a bad week @Ali29. You both sound so positive too. As you both say hopefully others can see it gets easier x
It’s 6 months for me tomorrow! I too can see I have come a long way since those first early days. I too still have that knot in my stomach and never truly relax and although I still have bad days I also have some good ones.
It’s great advice to take every opportunity in life and accept every invitation! If this nightmare has taught me anything it’s that none of us have tomorrow guaranteed! What ever we choose to do with our futures is up to us but it doesn’t take away our past! The love I have for my husband will remain with me forever! J x
Your so right! It scares me that life can end so suddenly to someone so close and yes I will love and miss him forever and he will always be part of my journey from now on. We have been forced to change our lives and hope we can all find a way going forward x
@Jax2 I totally agree. It’s hard sometimes to not feel guilty when we find joy in life again. But like you my husband is always in my thoughts & heart.
So wish you guys lived nearer so we could have a coffee! I think you truly understand how I’m feeling. Much love to you all! J x
So true. Well said x
@Jax2 such a pity we are spread all over the country. It would be lovely to meet face to face. X
I am in Cheshire in Northwich and happy to meet anyone for chat and coffee anytime. Sometimes talking to a stranger is better than not talking.
I’m glad to read these posts, it almost 6 months for me and i have planned holidays for next year looked at booking some concerts and plays. I am going to a trial afternoon for a choir and thinking of joining a bereavement group i managed to find. I too have the rock in mt chest feeling and such sadness but i try to accept invitations and have had some enjoyable times. I still havent managed to accept it yet though. Im hoping it will come in time. Its just unbelievable that he was here one minute, fit and full of life and gone the next with all my dreams, gone too. I hope to find some measure of happiness one day, until then I’ll fake it.
Hi @Freefaller @Jan17
Recently i joined a rock choir in Edinburgh and also joined U3A group in Edinburgh to try to get some structure into my week.
I did a taster session and really enjoyed the choir. Singing and happy vibes in the hall really uplifted my mood. Would recommend you look at doing this.
Today had a bit of a set back crying for a while. Still looking forward to Wed choir practice.
I dont have anyone to ho on holidays but will look at the solo ones next year.
I know Kevin would have wanted me to do things and not just sit aound and cry although some days i want too.
Take care x
@Galaxy75 glad you have found something new that you enjoy. I have joined the Jolly Dollies who organise meet ups, lunches, attending local events etc. I have found this a huge help. Getting out and meeting others who totally understand what it’s like to lose a partner. I can’t sing for toffee so not sure a rock choir is for me. I looked at U3A but because I still work there wasn’t anything at times that suit. I didn’t realise you are also in Scotland 
I love going on Holiday, but not sure I’m ready for a solo one yet.
My granddaughter and niece are going to come to London next year with me as my daughter is running in the Marathon
Yes @Jan17 i live outside Edinburgh so that is the closest town.
I too have joined the Dolly Jollies as it would be good to meet up with othes who have gone through this grieving process too.
I have joined the Theatre group of U3A as they evening events in Edinburgh.
I retired early 3 years ago although did some temp work for charites recently.
What part of Scotland are you in?
Hope you enjoy the JD group
Hi @Punto
Thats good your family are going to London fir marathon.
Be nice to have people you know around.
I dont have any family and most friends are couples so will have to look at solo ones if i want holidays.
Take care x
Its good to see all the positive steps so many of us are taking. I saw a Facebook post about U3A but not really sure what they do. There is an open afternoon so thinking i should go and see.
@Freefaller I am going to go and check out that group too next month . There may be something good to join