A poem

My partner of 35 years passed 8 weeks ago from a massive heart attack, we had no warning, he had only just had his 69th birthday. He had suffered all of his life with anxiety and panic attacks and I have been told by so many people both family and friends that for him this was the best way to go as he would never have coped mentally with a prolonged physical illness. I know that they are right but I just wish that we could have had more years together.
I found this poem and from somewhere I found the strength to read it at his funeral. It seemed so apt for him

Weep not for me. Author unknown

Weep not for me though I am gone
Into that gentle night
Grieve if you will but not for long
Upon my soul’s sweet flight
I am at peace, my soul’s at rest
There is no need for tears
For with your love I was so blessed
For all those many years
There is no pain, I suffer not
The fear now all is gone
Put now these things out of your thoughts
In your memory I live on
Remember not my fight for breath
Remember not the strife
Please do not dwell upon my death
But celebrate my life

I try so hard to accept the words of my family and friends and the sentiments of the poem but it is so difficult and the tears keep coming. Sometimes I feel I am selfish for wishing he had survived the heart attack because the doctors had told us that if he did he would have need a lot of medical interventions and he had a phobia of hospitals . Why is life so cruel


Aw your poem made me cry ! 9 months in im still so emotional. Miss him so much … i think my aim is to move … god bless you at 8 weeks into this , its a tough time ! But tbh i dont feel brilliant at 9 months ! And we were married 35 years too :frowning: xx


Ive lost my partner of 18yrs she was my soulmate im sitting here on my own breaking my heart she passed away on saturday just gone anyway that poem is so beautiful and I wish everyone on here who has lost loved ones love and peace. X


Sorry for your loss. Hope you get some sleep x

Thank you but I cant sleep im exhausted but cant settle since ive lost my jo last saturday x

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Try just rest then … sue ryder put a helpline called ataloss. Org think it is. Its a chat line for those who are bereaved. Maybe have a look tomorrow? Try soothe yourself tonight if you can with a hot drink or play music. Hope you are ok :frowning: x

Thank you take care

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Kennym it is very early days for you. Do you have any family or friends who are supporting you? I don’t think I could have got through this far without my wonderful daughters.
Perhaps seek help from your doctor if sleeping is a problem, a short course of sleeping tablets to help you through these early days may be helpful
Keep communicating on here. PM me if you want to Stay strong, you can get through this