Admitting I need help

I have suffered 3 bereavements in the last 4 months (father, aunt and best friend). In addition, I lost my mother 5 years ago and son 20 years ago. I don’t feel I have dealt with any of those losses and my mental health is suffering. After a horrible row with my family over Christmas, I’ve realised I need to reach out for help instead of suppressing my grief.

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Hi hart0201

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your father, aunt and best friend recently, and the loss of your mother and son before. It can be hard to reach out for help. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

If you think it would be helpful to you, Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here:

You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please do keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

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Hi sorry to hear about all you have been through in the last 4 month and the loss of your mother and son i do undestand the pain you are going i lost my husband of 53 years and together for 55

the worst part is the row you had with your family specialy if you dont get the support you need from them and understanding that sometimes after what you have been through can cause a lot of anger as well as grief that has built up in you over time

its good that you have realised you need help and are now reaching out for it

take care and hope you can get the help you need pat

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Dear hart0201

I see you have already received replies to your post but I wanted to welcome you to the community. Recent deaths, and I’m sorry you have experienced so many in such a short space of time, do bring up other unresolved grief issues if they linger.

My heart goes out to you. It isn’t easy learning to be more open if you have kept things bottled up for most of your life. I hope more people online write to you. Everyone has something to offer each other and I’m glad you found the courage to express how you feel here. Keep writing.

best wishes


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