Good morning
I recently lost my partner several weeks ago and finding it extremely hard to come to terms with it. Although we dud not live together 24/7 I spent 4 days a week at his house, walking his beautiful dog at weekends. Now that he has passed away, I don’t have any of the old routine to continue my journey on my own. I live on my own and lived an hour away from him.
Would like to hear from others as how to navigate life without a beloved partner
Hello Meadow5,
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I can completely sympathise with you.
I’m afraid I don’t have any magical wisdom to share with you. I lost my wife just over 6 months ago and it’s been a very painful experience for me so far.
I’m just trying to hang in there in the hope that things will get easier with time.
I imagine you are still very shocked by what has happened - are you still able to walk the dog? I don’t have a dog myself but have found walking a very important part of my daily routine - it helps when the grief becomes too overwhelming.
I’m also having some counselling that I find helpful. Posting on this forum is also a really good way to find support - it’s a great community full of kind people who understand what you are going through, so please get involved in the various subjects.
Sending you my very best wishes,
Thank you for you reply
Sadly the dog has gone to live with his daughter in Wales
I am deaf but not profoundly, so I feel rather uneasy walking out alone. I
I don’t have anything tangible that I can continue from my life with my partner whining I am struggling with
Although I have children and grandchildren, I am just finding it hard as they all have their own lives and don’t want to be a burden on them
I have applied for counselling but as it’s only been 7 weeks, it’s deemed as ‘too early’
I am sure I am not alone in saying this, but I wish I can join him
Hello Meadow5,
I can really understand feeling uneasy about going out alone - I’ve had days when I can’t bring myself to leave the house either. Losing routines and connections makes everything feel so empty.
Since I lost my wife, I try to hold on to her memory in my “inner world” - it helps me feel she’s still with me.
It’s so hard when family are busy with their own lives, but I’m glad you posted here. Talking, even in small ways, can help us feel a bit less alone. Before I was accepted for counselling I called the CRUSE helpline 0808 808 1677, a few times - it was helpful to speak to a sympathetic person who I didn’t know.