I can’t see anyone addressing this but I can’t be alone turning to alcohol to numb the incredible pain, but probably making things even more painful if that is possible?

No you’re not alone. I’ve heard many others do the same. My husband died suddenly 8 weeks ago. He was the love of my life, I miss him with every fiber of my being. I know turning to alcohol is not the answer but when the pain is so overwhelming and unbearable you just want it to stop so you can breathe a bit. Sometimes I wonder how much pain a body can take before it breaks.

You are not the only one. I lost my brother 4 weeks ago and am finding myself turning to alcohol to numb me a bit. The Easter break hasn’t helped (I work in a school) so am hoping i can stop the reliance in coming days x

I don’t think we should beat ourselves up for having a couple of glasses watching tv on our own.
I would say to the people who comment adversely, put your self in our shoes,NOTHING prepares you for loosing your dearest partner


How many of us hurt so much that we turn to drink. Never in ten thousand years did i think i would turn in that direction but i have. Pain is the reason the unbearable pain.

My husband died a week before Christmas and friends and family kept offering me a brandy for the shock, I refused every time because I felt if I had one I would drink the bottle, I am now able to enjoy a glass of wine without feeling that way, but I can understand why people want to numb that pain even if it’s a temporary numbness take care

Hi there Prue, I have never been much of a drinker but have turned to alcohol to relieve as you said the unbearable pain - I know the outcome of excess as my ex husband died of cirrhosis. To lose my partner after I never thought I would or want to meet anyone else is so full of despair I do not have what it takes to take my life but I would if I could. I just do not want to be here without him - xx