After my husband cheated and abandoned me because I couldn’t give him children, in the same 6 months of this i lost both my parents. My sibling are a lot older than me and both now very poorly. I have no one to spend time with or talk to as all my friends are in happy partnerships. I’m not suicidal at all but right now I really don’t see the point in my life. The men I met on dating apps have been diabolical, 1st one a drinker and violent, 2nd one a drinker and was drugging me and doing god knows what, 3rd used me and has left me without any self esteem. I lost my business down to someone faking a crime and trying to sue me and I’ve lost all 3 of my cats in the last year. I can’t find any new friends who aren’t big drinkers or drug takers. I’ve become totally isolated and pretty sure if I disappeared no one would even look for me for weeks. As I said I’m not suicidal, I don’t need or want the Samaritans just to find some kind friendly people.
Just read your post and so sorry for the amount of grief and bad luck you have experienced in such a short time. Losing loved ones is a terrible thing and takes time to accept and live with . But you have also had a partner walk out on you too then experienced unsuitable dates and friends. Take time to look after yourself and try meeting people through general social groups of like minded people. Or try a dating site with a good reputation. It’s awful the things you have experienced but there is good and decent people out there it’s just finding them. Good luck and best wishes. Never give up looking for your happier life.
So sorry for what you have been through, that sounds like a lot, I truly believe in the power and love of God. I don’t know if you attend church, but there you become a member of a church family who truly cares about you. There you will meet decent people, a lot of them have also had many problems and a tough life, sorry if im overstepping, a lot of people don’t like to hear about religion, but I will be praying for you, God bless you
Thank you both for your thoughts and contributions. I am truly grateful.
I have to be honest and say I don’t have any faith, purely based on my entire family being very religious and such awful things still happening to them, in my mind for no reason, considering what they gave to “the church”
I grew up opposite a 12th century church and used to play in the grave yard alone, speaking to those there and putting flowers on unloved graves of those that passed years ago, I also have a house spirit (nothing bad at all, just a presence) so I do believe in that.
But when it comes to a one god I’m not there for that.
But thank you.
There is a group on Facebook called ladies travel buddies they have groups in all areas of the UK. I joined myself which was hard to take that step. People go on holiday together or just out for a coffee or a meal days out etc.
Have a look and give it a go hope you find some nice like minded people.
Ah that’s a nice idea! I might go back on FB one day, but I have to admit my mental state has been a lot better since I came off 3 years ago. I cannot handle conspiracy theories. doom scrolling as I can easily get sucked into it.
When I drank I had loads of friends but now I am sober they don’t bother with me, which is fine by me as I don’t want drinkers in my life. I’ve found some chatty cafe’s where people meet in person which I’m going to start going to I think. Thank you for all your help