It’s been 2 months since I lost my partner
People ask me how I’m doing, I say I’m ok, but really I am not.
I still miss her so much, and have no enthusiasm to do anything, I’ve tried to go out but find it all so difficult and am becoming more and more withdrawn,
Keep asking myself how much longer are these feelings going to last.
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@Peter7 firstly I’m sorry your partner has died , it is such a lonely place to be .
My beloved died 13 months ago and I still miss him like it happened yesterday. I will always love him , we were meant to be together. Recently my son has become fed up with the “ new me “ in deep grief so is being incredibly selfish and not bothering to see me which is adding to my loneliness. The pain of potentially losing my son though is absolutely nothing compared to the loss of my partner. I wish you well - all I can say is that for me , loss is a painful and lonely place .
Sending you love x
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They will last forever but you will adjust to them. I’m sorry you find yourself here, it’s not a place you really want to join but it does offer the best support as we have all been where you are.
2 months is very early and the pain is indescribable and raw. This does subside over time and becomes a dull ache and then we just start to learn to live with it.
The grief comes in waves, some waves knocking you flat, some just rough and eventually calmer waves.
There is no end point to grief and it will never go away but you will learn to live along side it. Days will get better. Keep reaching out on here as whatever you say will not be judged and there will always be someone listening.
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Your in the very early days and how your feeling is normal, your loss isn’t something your going to be able to come to terms with easily.
At the moment if your eating, sleeping and showering your doing well, your expecting too much from yourself, just do what you want to at the moment and be kind to yourself.
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I lost my wife last month of 47year feel so lost and sad each day
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@Peter7 I lost my husband 2 months ago - 24th December - when people ask me how I’m doing my reply is ‘I don’t know’ that seems to sum it up for them and me. Yes I have found exactly the same at first going out wasn’t too bad but as the weeks go by I’m finding it more and more difficult and I too am finding I have zero enthusiasm to do anything at all. Sitting on the sofa with a cup of tea and looking at the framed photo of my husband is the only place I feel safe, I looked around me the other day and I was surrounded by tissues my phone my tablets my face creams and it felt like I was in a little boat sailing over an ocean of my own tears - my husbands beautiful smiling face like a lighthouse across the dark ocean.
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Im still having trouble with my kids too @Ladysuisei6 and youre right they don’t like the person you are now ! I dont like them either snd their lack of compassion for me. I have 2 girls and a boy and had so little compassion from them after losing my husband ! Ive so had enough of life today … i wish i had gone with my husband …i cant bear living this life anymore without him … without a husband. It is just so terribly awful and lonely !!xx
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Yep i totally agree with you about that one. Youre spot on there . Xx
Agree with u only people who have lost their loved one knows how it feels
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We have to try to dismiss the negatives, however difficult, talking on here helps us to try to make sense of it all
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Mmmm … easier said than done !x
Sorry for your loss so much. It is so lonely! I thought sunnier days would help, but not much at the moment. At least we have help on here and are learning to deal with the feelings, however hard. Hour to hour my friend and we will be ok, sending hugs …
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Yeh not helping that much is it ? Im still miserable. i hate my new life now … just want it to be over really ? Where is the joy. Where is the purpose ? There isnt any is there ? Thought i had found a nice male friend but actually turns out hes a bit of a wally !! So feeling disillusioned with the stupid world and next year im moving anyway to go live by the sea !,X
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Hope u enjoy life by the sea the girls and boy then miss u
I know how you feel. I thought it was getting better but I feel worse as the days go by. (4 months since I lost the love of my life )
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So sorry you are feeling that way, but keep talking and hopefully it will help. I’ve found most people are here are very supportive 
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Yeh i know thanks. Having a bad day bless you - feeling very disillusioned with life and people tbh xx
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Hopefully those Bad days are less frequent, I have to believe that 
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Keep talking
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I hope so 
its up and down @Peter7 how far are you into this awful journey … its so hard isnt it ? We didn’t ask for any of this did we ? We had no choice in the matter 
x
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Lost my partner last Dec 23rd , just can’t get use to her not being here, 
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