Hello. I lost my mother in July this year and coped okay until about a couple of months ago. My sleep has fallen off a cliff and I’m frequently awake from 2.00 am until it’s time to get up. This lack of sleep makes me very anxious about things I’d normally cope well with. At this point, I don’t feel like I’m progressing any and losing so many days to just lying on the sofa. Has anybody else experienced this and does it get better. I want my life back 
. TIA
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I lost my lovely Mum in September and at first I coped. There was so much to do, all the paperwork and organising and everything. But now most of that is done, I have too much spare time to fill. And so I end up thinking too much and worrying about everything, and as a result my anxiety levels are through the roof!
I find when I go to bed I can get to sleep, but I wake up about 4.00 am and start to think. I dread waking up, because for a few seconds I think everything is ok and I can hear Mum moving about - and then it hits me that she’s gone! So I start to cry then and because of that I get more anxious. It seems never ending, especially as I felt I was doing ok a couple of weeks ago.
Like you, all I can hope for is that it will get easier in time. At least I hope so
Take care and look after yourself x
So sorry for your loss. Yes, anxiety and lack of sleep are normal reactions and like you’ve experienced it can come and go in waves. It’s hard to just wait for it to ease, so it might be helpful to try natural supplements to help you sleep, that’s what I’ve been doing, and you can find strategies for coping with anxiety if you search online. 
Oh Sheena29, what you outline is just what I’m experiencing too. The anxiety isn’t directly about losing my mother, it’s heightened anxiety about everything else - my work situation, money etc. Normally, I’d be a bit anxious, but these things wouldn’t floor me like they do now. I just think my lack of coping is the grief coming out. Let’s support each other in this. It’s means so much that you’ve done such an honest post. Look after yourself - take every opportunity for some self care. Your mother would be proud 
Thank you so much Ulma. It means a lot to hear this is normal. Normally, I cope so well . Sending love to you in your loss and thank you for the tip about natural supplements. I’ll seek some out. Take care x
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Hi Mancmum
I could really do with someone who understands right now. Sometimes I can cope ok I suppose and at others, well it’s like I don’t know what I’m doing. Everything decision seems to take so long to reach now - that’s I’d I ever get round to making one! Sometimes I can’t even decide what I want to eat so I end up not having anything.
I just hope that what I’ve read in other posts is right and that it does get a little easier with time. I truly hope so because I’d hate to feel as bad as this for the rest of my life.
I hope that you’re doing ok. Keep strong and look after yourself. I’m here if you need to talk x
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I can hear your total sense of loss in what you write. And I’m with you on that. I haven’t been bereaved long enough to be able to advise but I’m sending you strength & healing, and that you find wise, reassuring words from others who are further down this rocky path. Sending love x
Thank you for your support. It means a lot.
I hope you have good friends and family to help you through this, and that they will be there for you whenever you need them.
Keep in touch and together maybe we can get through this.
Sending you love and hugs and take care of yourself xx
Reading your messages I felt that I had written them myself. I wish no one else felt this way but am starting to realise how devastating and a rollercoaster grief can be and that I (we) are not alone in these feelings. I miss my soulmate so much.
Lack of sleep leads to anxiety and loss of appetite and weight. I too am only 5 weeks into this journey so desperately trying to navigate the challenges. I find Talking helps but anxiety is making it a challenge to meet friends. With no family my friends are my saviours.
I do find writing down my feelings helps me in getting some relief
Let’s just take each day as best we can and pray that things get easier 
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