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Losing a parent
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Hey anyone about?

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Hi Rachel, I’m here. How are you doing?

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Hi Rachel, i’m always here if you need to talk x

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Thanku both - huge wobble last night and didn’t know where to turn to

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Here if you want to talk, I’m struggling too atm x

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Can I ask what happened? I’ve been through so many wobbles this year. Always here if you need to just talk or anything. I know it helps when there is someone who listens x

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I just feel so lost at the minute not helped with wine last night.

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Hi Rachel, the wines nice at the time but ultimately it doesn’t help. I know from experience, I’ve done the same thing but it seems to magnify thing’s the next day, well it does for me, so it’s cold turkey for me now. As hard as it sounds we have to try and come to terms with our situation, I know everyone is different but I find I’m copying better trying to carry on doing things that me and the wife where doing before she passed. Doing these things seems to bring a little bit of normality to thing’s but the night time’s are hard. I hope you’re feeling better now Rachel, keep going x.

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Thanku all, it’s been a big step posting on here. I know I need support but didn’t want to do anything face to face yet.

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I can’t help much, but sending you lots of strength and gentle hugs. xx

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Hi @Rachel97

It’s very hard isn’t it. I hope you keep posting here as everyone understands. You can say what you really feel here. Take care of yourself as best as you can sending you a virtual :hugs:

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Hi Rachel. Hope you’re doing better today​:folded_hands:? I lost my mum in July and like loads on here, the grief hit me in ways I couldn’t imagine. So I get where you’re coming from. It’s helped me to track what things might be not helping - someone mentioned wine aggravates things the next day - which I agree with. And a lot of sweets stuff makes me worse too. I’m not wishing to undermine the very real grief we all feel, but by finding g out what makes it worse helps to turn down it’s affects a little. Wishing you comfort & healing :heart:

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Just thought it was going okay do other peoples partners understand?

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To an extent. He asks if I’m ok but I think he expects me to just say yes and be able to move on. I take myself off for quiet time in the evenings and that probably is hard for him to understand.

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We all need time to ourselves to try and contemplate what has happened, process our thoughts, that will naturally be all over the place.

One thing I have learnt and I say this to everyone - “it’s ok not to be ok”! The outpouring of emotion you are going through is proof of the love and size of your heart for the person not in your life anymore. When my sister passed in May I thought my world was over, but I was lucky and I had people around me to pick me up and I was completely honest when they asked me if I was ok - “no, no I’m not ok”.

Sometimes we need the comfort of others even if no words are said, and other times we need to be alone to process, to calm, to try and control thoughts and feelings etc. Or just listen to music. I heard a great quote that said… “when you’re happy, you enjoy the music, but when you’re sad…. You understand the lyrics!”

Be with yourself and look after yourself in whatever way you need to be! Take care! Xx

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Me too, my dad passed 16th October.

I’m here if you want to chat

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Me too for you - Thanku x