Morning 
my husband died 5 weeks ago yesterday and i think im going to return to work today. I only work part time at the moment due to being a carer for Eric. I popped in to work last week just for a chat. My fit note ends today so I thought id give it a go. I work in a school kitchen and only 3 days, 12.5 hours a week. Hoping to get some routine back but now im worrying about the practical stuff…the dog being home etc. Hoping for some positive words from the community x
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Kafebrown, Social interaction helped me a lot, I hope that you are lucky and your colleagues understand and chat about light things. I am retired so did not have that option, but fortunately live in a village with a lot going on. Getting out of the house and being with people I found helpful, I found that if people wanted to talk about things that would start me off, I just said " I don’t want to talk about it " and changed the subject, no one took offence if I asked them something. I hope that it goes well and you enjoy the company.
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Thank you x
Hi kafe i lost my partner in april im returning to work nxt month hoping it will give me space to stop thinking all the emotional things you think of and feel day in day out. I hope it goes well for you keep chatting on your bad days were all here for the same thing. Take care x
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Thank you, i think if it was full time I would be taking more time….hopefully its the right thing for me xx
Let us know how you get on x
Hiyah work was ‘ok’…people were kind but ive felt emotional since I got home, just being at home alone and dealing with things like finances and car insurance is really triggering…got to be done I suppose, just wish Eric was here 
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Well done Kafebrown, The first day done and dusted. I leave BBC Radio on in the kitchen most of the time as it is mainly talking, even when I am out so the place does not seem so empty when I walk in. You deserve a Hug, like from your brother.
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Thats a good start for you and everyone being nice . I know its hard coming home and its so heartbreaking as so much has changed for us but taking little steps at a time is all we can do for now keep strong and posting getting your emotions out help x
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Thank you for your kind words x
I know how you feel. I lost my husband 10 weeks ago. I went back to work at 5 weeks as I couldn’t bear to be at home. But also hate coming home to an empty house . Being at work helps me deal with my anxiety that developed with my loss.
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Thats exactly how i feel 
sending you hugs xx
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Just saw your post and am very interested in your experiences. I lost my wife seven weeks ago but I can’t return to my part time job as I have an elderly dog. I know only too well what returning to the empty house feels like. I hope things go well for you.
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Sending hugs to you! The last five weeks without my husband have been the hardest of my life. My decision to return to work wasnt an easy one but wanted to try because being home is upsetting. I too have a dog but am lucky that my sister lives nearby and get check in on her and im only out for 4.5 hours. X
You are being very brave. Your loved one would be so proud of you
Sending you hugs
Hi Kafebrown
I lost my wife on 6th January, and have been back at work for a while now. I am still not back full time, as i am still emotionally drained and find everything tiring.
I wanted to get some routine back into my life, and didn’t want to sit in a home full of memories all day. It is good to talk to other people, although i understand it is really awkward for them, so i don’t talk about Jacquie too much. It hurts coming home to an empty place, but what else can i do.
I really hope going back to work is beneficial to you. Good luck with your work and your journey.
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Thank you, coming home has been really difficult….Eric should be here. We should be enjoying the lighter nights and sunshine together 
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Jacquie used to love the sun and warm weather, so i take no comfort from the sunny days.
Sadly it is hard to find comfort in anything, but i know she would want me to continue my life. I am not at a point yet where i am able to really do that. I find myself wracked with guilt about so many things currently.
I know this will not get any less painful, i will just learn to live with the pain better.
I am exhausted with crying, but still can’t stop myself.
We were looking forward to me retiring in 5 years, and spending more time together. Sadly that dream died with her passing.
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I also have feelings of guilt but I think thats ‘normal’. Its really sad that life feels on hold but somehow we have to find a way to navigate it. Sending you hugs. Be kind to yourself x
Hi set a timer with an old fashioned radio with a click on /off, so there is music playing when you get home, it really helped me, I still do it, 5.5 months on.
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