Hello.
I lost my husband & soulmate of over 20 years unexpectedly nearly 3 months ago. We have 2 young children. He was 42 and healthy.
To become a widow at 39 was not our plan; we had our whole life ahead of us and this has completely blindsided me & I’m struggling to come to terms with it.
The fact that I need to ‘carry on’, especially for the children and keep their routine has made me keep going.
Night times are the worst as usually there is a prescience of another person, but now it’s just me: To look after the kids, to deal with the house, to pay the bills. Everything is just so overwhelming. I hope there are other people who understand where I’m coming from so I know I’m not alone in this, thank you.
Hello and so sorry about the loss of your husband. This place is a club that no one wanted to join, but sadly we did.
I lost my wife Jackie back in March, so it’s just over 23 weeks. It’s terrible that you have suffered this loss so young. I had been with Jackie 60 years, nearly 58 of them married.
People here understand what the loss of a partner is, so please join in the chats. We are all here to help each other.
Hi
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss ,
It is harder on a evening money to watch tv with
Nobody to talk too , I find Sundays are the worst day they are so long and boring and miss my partner so so much some days I don’t feel how I’m going to go on , I’ve just tried to get a appointment at my gp the mental health nurse has just left two gps have left , I can’t get on with cruise !! I’m waiting till 8 am to call for a g p appointment .
Hi, so sorry for your loss. My husband of 25 years is now terminally ill. I can’t stop crying already, I feel like I will never be happy again. Friends have told me to be strong, which I usually am, but it’s so hard keeping it together for the kids. I’ve been trying mindful exercises and little tricks like tapping. But I have just got some anti-depressant medication and I have already had an assessment for grief support. Have you accessed any support or asked the GP for something? I can’t believe I’m going to be a widow at 53. Find as much support as you can via the GP I have found them helpful. And don’t forget to eat little and often and keep hydrated, this will help with the physical symptoms of grief also.
Hi Maxine ,
I am sorry to hear your husband is so very poorly ,
I found my doctors ok for tablets but there mental health nurse has left ! Cruse had nothing and a lot of there people on there phones are not trained and that put me off I still haven’t found any help
Take care of yourself
I’ve just brought him home from hospital. I bring so selfish crying all the time when he’s so ill. I can’t imagine my future without him. I need to grow from this, as we all do and take comfort in watching my grandkids grow up. I never thought I would take medication, I’m usually very healthy both mentally and physically. Do this is a shock got me. Are there any widow groups near you, there’s some near me and I will access them. It’s just hard because only like the company of my husband. Hope you feel better soon,
@Blondie2085 I am sorry you have reason to be on a forum such as this. It feels so unfair when your husband was so young. I’d recommend you join WAY (Widowed and Young) as there may be local groups in your area, there are online forums for people who are widowed under the age of 51, many will have younger children to enable you to get support and create networks of people at your stage in life.
Thank you for your message, it really does mean a lot. Sorry to hear about your wife; I just can’t comprehend what’s happened, and literally every part of my & our children’s lives has changed.
Please do look after yourself as well
@Maxine299 so sorry to hear about your husband, he sounds like an amazing Man.
I went to the GP and they offered me medication, but I declined as I feel i won’t be able to look after the kids on them as they’re so young and are a handful.
I’m going to look into local groups, as I just need to have people around me who understand what I’m going through. I am lucky to have so much support around me with friends and family, but they just don’t know what I’m going through!
The worst is when people say ‘I know how you feel; I lost my mum/dad/grandparent etc’. No. You don’t know how I feel; it’s not the same losing the love of your life.
Please look after yourself; I’m sure your husband wouldn’t want you to be so upset xx
It really isn’t the same as losing your husband. I would have loved to have grown old with him. There’s groups near me for young widows so there might be some near you.
Dear Blondie
Just sending you a virtual hug
It must be so hard to keep strong for your children I hope their hugs give you a little strength back to face the next hurdle
I had been with Jackie 60 years, nearly 58 of them married.
xx