The common denominator of grieving that we all tend to experience is the loneliness and the emotions that come with it. Grief shatters your confidence, your decision making, trust, a whole host of every emotion comes to the surface to be healed. Our loved one’s were half of who we are and therefore understood what made us tick and vice versa. Always there when we were happy, sad or just needed reassurance. We shared decisions, we shared cold dark winters nights in the home that we built together. We felt safe with each other through the passage of time because we grew through it all together. Loneliness was something we didn’t feel so of course it is going to shatter our very foundations. However there are wonderful people in this life that we connect with, whether it be casual, temporary, through conversations, a smile, a hug that touch our hearts and this is how we begin to build our lives again. Just think how amazing we are with what we have all gone through yet we still have the strength to reach out and connect with others because we are human and it is not natural to feel this loneliness. It’s risky because we are vulnerable, scared of being hurt or going through more loss but if we are capable of surviving all that we have then we are capable of a new life filled with all the love and happiness we deserve, we owe to us to embrace every opportunity we have of experiencing joy and happiness again
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Wonderful .This is all that I am feeling intensely after the loss of my dear wife Siobhan last year after almost 50 years together. The loneliness and decision making on my own are just too much almost every day.
But I am trying hard to make a new life .Its what my wife would want of me .She would not want be to be unhappy. Tough but I have got top get on with it.
All my thoughts are with you .
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