My nanna has just passed away
My nanna was my best friend
I feel completely broken
How do I stop hurting x

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Hi Claire,
It is extremely difficult. However, in time I think you will remember just the happy times you shared. She was blessed to have someone like you who loved her, and you were blessed to have her. The depth of our love for someone is equal to the depth of the sorrow of losing them. Try to stay strong xx.

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Hi Claire we all know how you feel, those early days, when we see no way out of the despair. I remember one of the first things someone told me, Grief?, we cant go under it, we cant go over it, so we have to go through it.
But fairly soon, we see a speck of light at the end of the tunnel, which grows brighter and brighter. Everybody is different, so it’s impossible to predict how long it takes, but with a positive attitude it will be far shorter. New challenges keep appearing, and all we can do is overcome these challenges, and eventually they will disappear into your past and only happy memories of your Nanna will remain.
My wife died about 18 weeks ago, one month short of our golden wedding, and I’ve become accustomed to the loss, the happy memories FAR outweigh the sad ones. I’m rebuilding the plans for the rest of my life and looking forward to it… But it takes a lot of hard work and positivity.
It REALLY DOES get better, honestly. Keep your eyes on the light at the end of the tunnel, you’ll get there.
PS. I always end a thought of her with a smile, because she was (is) worth it!

PPS, talk about her and how you feel to everybody who will listen (and to those who won’t)

Oh Claire
I’m so sorry your nanna has passed away
You are a strong person and like the other post you will get through it
It’s not easy you will have really bad days and then when you think of the happy times with your nanna that might make you smile
Do what you need to do
There is no right and wrong for grief
When my husband died I wrote in journal
I would write it in on how I was feeling good or bad thoughts that helped me cope with my loss
Keep coming on this site
We are all feeling the same as you
Talking sharing does help coping with grief
You take care Claire

just take each day at a time, thats what i am doing!

Thank You everyone
I thought I was losing my mind as I have not been this hormonal since I was pregnant with my daughter
Thank You everyone for your lovely comments :heart:

Dear @Claire82

Welcome to the Community. I am sorry for the loss of your nanna and as to how you are feeling.

I would like to direct you to the Sue Ryder Grief Self-Help Service which contains supportive information to help you understand and cope with your bereavement and grief.

Please continue to reach out and take care.