Lost one of my best friends a week ago.
Crying so much. Finding it difficult to cope with daily life and work.
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I am so sorry for the loss if your dear friend… They say time is a healer but I’m afraid that isn’t true… I’r gers easier because we learn to live without them 
maybe you could talk to someone about your feelings as its not good to bottle things up… I lost my dad 09/01/2020 I am still in denial and talk to him daily… He was my bestest friend and the most important man who was always there for me… I spoke to him in the early hours that morning as I was on my way for an operation 120 miles alway… He had a cardiac arrest and passed away suddenly and I wasn’t there with him… I still feel the guilt and pain… But I talk about him every day and it dies help…
My thoughts are with you… Please talk and don’t bottle feelings x
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So sorry for the loss of your friend. I understand how you feel, having lost 2 best friends in 2015. Please allow yourself to grieve as you need. Losing friends can be just as hard, sometimes even harder than losing family. I have always thought of friends as my other family. Sending hugs xx
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Hi Chris,
I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve never easy loosing anyone and best friends are the family we choose.
you’re not alone. I lost one of my oldest friends a couple of months ago and another a few years ago. Do you have support at work? or other friends? Please take some time to process your loss and take your time. it sounds silly but I found a self-care app really helpful, even just to remind me to brush my teeth! I also got a group of friends together and we just had a good catch-up together.
If you ever need a chat, please just drop me a message. Take time for you. cry if you need to, shout, scream, sleep. Do what you need to do and try not to keep it inside
sending love and hugs x
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My friend died in Poland which makes it worse.
I live in England. Her husband notified me of her death. Circumstances of her death are being investigated by Polish authorities (she fell from a tower).
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Oh gosh. I’m so sorry. That sounds so tragic and difficult. I can’t imagine what you’re going through and all the questions you have. I hope you get some answers soon. please take some time out for yourself, if you feel you need it. I got a new job and discussed my loss with my manager who actaully told me if I’m ever not working for her and I’m in that position again to go off sick and take some time if my employers aren’t willing to give it to me. We’re all different and sometimes work can be helpful but at the same time, we also just need some time. There’s no right or wrong way to do things and what you’re going through it incredibly difficult and painful. if there’s one thing I’ve learnt, it’s that we do just need to listen to ourselves and what we need without worrying about others. All my love and thoughts are with you xx
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My full time job can’t just stop as I have a mortgage and bills to pay. I live on my own so it’s all on my shoulders.
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I can relate to being on one’s own and needing to keep working too. It might sound odd but I continued - and still do - to talk to my friends when I’m home alone, as though they can hear me, and I can so clearly imagine what they would say, their voices, the look on their face. It helps in a small way sometimes. I find comfort in remembering the times we shared, even though there is also sadness knowing there will be no more. I especially remember the gentle teasing there was between us and what one of them especially would say to me about my grief at losing her. I’m so sorry for the circumstances surrounding your friends death, please look after yourself as your friend would no doubt encourage you to do.
Hugs xx