I lost my husband 7 weeks ago totally out the blue and am devastated . I can’t accept one day he was here healthy or so we thought and the next day gone. We were together for 44 years. I am having anxiety attacks where I feel my heart will burst or stop. I am weepy sad frightened worried, everything seems so black. I know I’m not the only one feeling this way ,we all do losing a loved one . How do people ever get over this . The pain is unbelievable. Im also living alone which I hate ,the home is so empty. I thought we had years of happy retirement ahead. It’s all gone.
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Hello @Belinda1,
I’m part of the Online Community team. I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling.
I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can help to explain much of what you may be feeling or experiencing.
You mention that you are having panic attacks, so please also make an appointment with your GP to talk about these. You can also ask your GP to refer you to counselling or other support services in your area.
Shout is also contactable by text, 24/7. You can text SHOUT to 85258 and talk to them about anything.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Naoise
Hi Belinda. Its four weeks for me since the sudden death of my healthy,happy husband. on the day of our 55th wedding anniversary. I have some idea of the rollercoaster of emotions youre having. It is beyond words,shocking ,devastating and unreal.
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I know how awful shocking and terrifying this feels like ,it’s like a bomb has exploded in your life. I hope you find some way of dealing with your utter grief. My heart breaks for all of the people on here suffering the loss of a loved one ,esp a life partner. Take help and support wherever you can . Look after your self and just take each hour and day at a time ,that’s what I’m trying to do. I feel like I’m suffocating and drowning in grief as you will be too. Just keep holding on .
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