Birthday

Losing a partner
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I lost my soul mate of 35 years on February 27th this year yesterday was his birthday and this is the 1st time in 35 years I wasn’t with him . I guess the 1st everything will be hard I am just so sad depressed and alone I get so mad I just don’t know how to feel. Well thank you for listening.

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Hello Jillslay8,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your soul mate. Those firsts can feel extra hard, and it’s ok to take time to yourself to grieve and feel any way you feel. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief

  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care, Naoise

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Jill so sorry to hear about your loss.

My wife passed on the 8th March 2025, so know how devastating the loss hi is. I was with Jackie for 60 years and it would have been our 58th wedding anniversary on the 23rd September :broken_heart:

I have already had some firsts. My birthday was 13 days after she passed; Jackie’s birthday was also the day we interred her ashes; this Saturday will mark 6 months of being without her and the 23rd of this month will be our wedding anniversary.

It’s so hard :smiling_face_with_tear: but we all have to learn to live with this.

We will survive as long as we look after ourselves. People here are all on various stages of the sad journey we’re on, so offer support to each other.

You take care :mending_heart::mending_heart::mending_heart:

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I am so sorry for your loss of your wife . My logical brain knows this is all part of grief. The emotional part and the heart are a different story. I get mad at my self thinking it should be getting better then I realize it has not been as long as it feels . It’s such a bad rollercoaster ride. Thank you for your kind words and please take care of yourself too.

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