Do you ever feel you are carrying the heaviest burden of grief.It weighs you down,mentally and physically and just now and then you wish someone would carry you? My family are wonderful but I hold back on my feelings. My husband would pick me up right now. I wish he could.
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So sorry for your loss @Woody9. I lost my wife 19 months ago. We were together for almost 51 years.
I posted this on another thread recently and thought you might get some comfort from it.
Their physical life may have ended but they remain connected to you in ways that transcend physical proximity. You need to form a new kind of relationship with them and learn a new language together; one that operates in dimensions beyond the five senses. Souls communicate in symbols, thoughts, images, synchronicities and dreams so, you have to learn to communicate with them in a new way. The love didn’t die; it’s more alive than ever. You just have to learn how to feel it without a body to see, hear, touch and hold.
I guess these are some of the questions we should asking ourselves. Are we identifying with who they were or with what they’ve become? Are we honouring them right now or are we holding them hostage? Are we remembering them, or are we refusing to let them go? There’s a profound difference. One is love, the other is fear disguised as love and they can feel the difference from where they are. Everyone, who has lost someone they love, has a grief story they tell themselves. What story are you telling yourself? What would happen if you changed your story?
I wish you well on your journey.
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Hi Wilson.
I have had signs from husband. It started as soon as he died. At first it was a bird I have never seen before. It came everyday and on the day of his funeral it came and sat on a window,above our heads,it stayed all morning. A Red Kite followed us all the way to the Chapel.I have felt a kiss on my cheek whilst in bed.
These things are comforting and I know if he can look out for me ,he will.
Its just over four months ago he went to bed and never woke up. A big strong healthy man. No warning,no reason. After 55years,I cannot let him go. I know I should but I dont want to. I still think hes going to come walking in.
I miss him.
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Thanks for posting @Woody9.
Those stories are so uplifting. You must get a great deal of comfort fro them.
Try not to think of it as letting go of your loved one. Try to think of it as transforming the relationship you had from one of physical presence to spiritual connection.
Thta’s what I’m trying to do but it’s not easy.
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Hi, yes I agree with you. It’s mentally exhausting feeling like this all the time. Lost my lovely partner suddenly seven months ago. I long for some respite. I’m thinking of asking my GP for medication, I’m wary but I don’t think I can suffer this emotional pain and anxiety for much longer.
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Hi. I dont want to go for medication just yet,I am trying to feel my way through the days. Lost for words for the emotions you go through every day. A couple of weeks ago I felt quite calm,I was even shocked when I laughed at something someone said but last week I felt I was back right at the start. Dont you wish just for a little while you could feel ‘normal’. I have been taking Rescue night gummies and they seem to relax me before bed. I will see how I go then maybe think about medication.
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You don’t have to let them go, it’s just now a different relationship. It’s one that isn’t physical, but energetic, spiritual, which is our true self. The relationship has changed. Like Wilson9 said, they connect in a different way now. Write down everything you think is them connecting, even if you’re not sure. When you acknowledge signs, they send more. And, the way they connect changes over time. I get things now that pop in my mind that don’t sound like my own thoughts, but mean something and sound like him.
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