Burying my husband alongside my daughter

I’m 44 and was married for 24 years. Was with him a whole 29 years and loved him unconditionally and deeply. We grew up together.
Tragedy struck us in early 20’s when our daughter died. Burying our daughter was the darkest day of my life… until 2 weeks ago.
My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 incurable cancer in his 30’s which I always put down to trauma of losing our daughter. 2 weeks ago he passed away in hospital.
The funeral is after Christmas and what makes things that bit more difficult is having to bury my husband in the same plot as our daughter.
Friends & family are there for me, but I am not coping well at all. Many days I simply don’t want to be here anymore.
I literally feel like i have a broken heart. A constant pain in my chest.


Hello traybroth,

I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter and husband that brings you here.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,


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How are you coping Nori?

Nori I have just been looking at some of your older posts. We have something in common. My husband had kidney cancer too.