I lost my lovely dad today after a long and cruel illness. My mum and I were with him at the end and it was very quick, which I’m sure will both be of more comfort in time but I’m already glad this was the case and that both of us were there. I cannot stop my mind replaying his last moments. I’ve never seen someone die before and I’m really shaken up by it. Just needed to say it I guess. I have lovely and supportive friends who are all sleeping I would imagine, and mum is properly asleep for the first time in weeks thank goodness. I just need to feel a little less on my own in this moment.
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Hi,
I lost my mother recently and she too suffered a long set of illnesses. First myasthenia, which is an autoimmune disease which attacks the muscles, and then heart failure. I too, after receiving the call from my father who was at hospital, I was at work, saw my mum. I arrived to see her. It brings tears to my eyes to talk about it now, but I can related to how you’re feeling. My father is a bit “distant” though and my brother is too. My old friends are all far away. My only true best friend was my mum who understood everything and was always there. Now, I’m navigating myself back slowly into life. Hang on in there, you’ll be okay. You will always hold him in your heart.
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Hello you are not alone and im so sorry for your loss, i lost my dad suddenly 3 days ago. Im lost and feel alone and i know this is grief but its so hard, i wish you nothing but healing when the time is right. We are here even if we are mourning too. Love and prayers to you
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I’m so sorry for your loss 
it’s comforting knowing that none of us are truly alone and there are people out there who get it. I hope you are receiving compassion even from far away friends, and from the community here - thank you so much for your kind words, and right back at you x
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Thank you so much for your kind words, and I am so sorry for your loss too. Sometimes just knowing other people are here and get it can be a massive comfort - I hope you have support and compassion from others?
Hi Drea
Im so sorry for your dad’s passing. It is overwhelming. Dont expect anything of yourself, you do and feel what feels right for you and your mum at the time. Unfortunately i still replay the last moments of my lovely dad and its 11 months since. I started finding songs that i remember hearing my dad sing and dance to when i was younger and i find it a bit of a comfort. I also bought a book for my mom and i called Loss by donna ashworth and find it really comforting. Take care x
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Thank you so much, and I’m so sorry to hear of your dad’s passing too. I’m glad that these things have brought comfort - I’m looking forward to finding these things too 
thank you for the book recommendation, I will check it out xx
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I lost my mum almost one month ago. I was there with her while she passed so I can understand what youre experiencing. Its truly awful and it replays in my head constantly. I dont know myself if it will get any better but it brings me some comfort to be able to reach out to someone who has experienced this like I have. I wish you all the love and healing. I hope the pain becomes lighter for us both. X
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