Does anyone else find that to they just can’t stop crying over their loss, or is it just me? I’m just sitting here now after finishing lunch and I just can’t stop the tears. Everything seems to be going so wrong for me now, and the harder I try the worse to things seem to get. It’s like one tiny step forward and a dozen large strides back.
There’s too much to cope with after a bereavement (all the paperwork and form filling) when all I want to do is hide away and grieve for the future I’ve lost without my mum.
I think others are getting fed up with me now and are feeling that I should be moving on now and getting on with things - but I can’t. It’s to hard and I have the most severe case of brain fog. I can’t remember what I’m doing from one minute to the next and there are loads of half completed jobs that I need to finish but I haven’t got the willpower or the inclination to do them. It’s so hard.
Thank you all for letting me rant on it does help!
So sorry you are in such pain. I am not crying so much at the moment and externally look ok (mainly because I need to put on a front for my children) but inside I am crying constantly. All I think of is my mum and am filled with immense sadness.
Thankfully I don’t have the admin to contend with as well as my Dad is doing a lot of that. I can’t imagine what that is like to juggle on top of grief. I do find that my get up and go has gone. I don’t achieve much each day. If I get one thing done at the moment then that’s a success.
Be kind to yourself. It is all so recent. 4 weeks is nothing. I think friends just run out of things to say to try and help. I read the posts on here months and years on and it scares me how long and lonely the journey ahead is. All we can do is take it day by day.
Thank you so much for your kind words. It’s so hard to cope when you’re on your own. I have no partner or children so I’m spending a lot of time on my own and today has been particularly hard for some reason. Maybe because it’s Sunday I don’t know.
I’m glad you’ve got your Dad for support I lost my Dad many years ago and since then it was just me and my mum against the world. We made a good team and were there for each so now it’s doubly hard to cope so it helps when someone takes the time to reply and makes me feel less alone.
Yes being on your own must mean there are very few distractions from your thoughts. Although I sometimes find the noise and chaos of family life so trivial and overwhelming and all I want is quiet.
My dad’s health is not wonderful and I fear for the future but I can’t start worrying about that as well at the moment.
Remember you are not alone. There are so many people on here ready to listen and understand. I am on this site regularly. Hopefully I’m not annoying others too much with my frequent posting but finding people who understand is rare in my day to day world.
s.b.2025 you are worth your weight in gold with your kind words for me when you are going through the same sort of thing yourself. You make me feel as though there are people who do care, and friends that I may only know through this community but are often more helpful than those in my everyday life.
Look after yourself and keep on touch. Love and hugs xx
I feel so sorry for anyone who is going thought the pain of loss. I also feel incredible envy of those who have no idea what it’s like.
Funeral tomorrow so will probably have a bit of a break on here while I try and brace myself for it. I just don’t feel strong enough to see the coffin or face all the proceedings.
Hope you’re doing ok Sheena. We’ve had the funeral and now I just physically ache - my head, eyes, back, stomach. I also feel like there is a massive part of me now gone which can never be filled, however much I try and fill my life with other stuff. I’m so sad and feel on the verge of crying most of the time. The last few weeks there was calmness and then waves of grief. Now it’s just all consuming.
Hi s.b.2025. I really feel for you and what you have just had to go through. It seems to pass in a bit of a haze and I find that my brain seems to have shut down about it, I suppose it’s a way of coping maybe, I don’t know.
But I do know just what it’s like to have an enormous mum-shaped hole in your life that seems completely impossible to fill. It’s just over two weeks since my mum’s funeral and I’m still not really coping but I try because I want her to be proud of me and not ashamed. I’m trying baby steps at the moment and I have found a peer grief support group close to me which I’m going to next week. It’s hard though because I don’t want to move on as it feels like I’m leaving her behind and I don’t want to do that.
I hope that you can draw strength from you family and friends and I feel like I would have really liked your mum because it seems you love her like I love mine.
Take care of yourself and we can chat any time you like. Sending you loads of love and hugs at this really difficult time. We will ok eventually it will just take us time.
Thank you. Yes I love her with ever fibre of my body. I was lucky to have such a close bond but with that comes the most unbelievable pain now that she’s gone. What I would give for even one more day with her! I know I will have to carry on and try to enjoy life but, like you, I don’t want to feel I’m leaving her behind.
I lost my life 6 weeks ago and i miss her every second of the day .like you we had such a close bond together,2peas in a pod
Even after 6 weeks i cant stop crying and having moments of doom And gloom.
I cannot see any way forward still.
Now my boss wants me back to work before my sick note has run out .i was given that by the doctor because i was so upset.
Its very hard indeed to face work again
Everyone keeps saying it will get better.
