It’s been 7 months since I lost my darling dad, and 11 weeks since I lost my wonderful step-father, both pretty suddenly. I’m okay some of the time, but as soon as I start to think about either of them I start sobbing uncontrollably. I want to be able to remember them both and smile, but any memory at all at the moment just causes me to melt down and cry. Even typing this, I’m crying. Again. If anyone has any tips on how to stop the tears flowing I’d be grateful to hear them… I’m due back to work in just over a week but if I cant get through a few hours without breaking down I’m terrified that I’m going to be sent packing…
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Hi Birdy4
Thank you so much for sharing this with the community 
Please know it’s ok to cry; there’s no timeline for grief.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard and you are not alone.
Take good care,
Rhi
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I think it is just part of the process and there is nothing you can do to control it. I am nearly 7 months losing my mum and have days when it’s like that. I was at her old work yesterday as my uncle in hospital. Was fine till I arrived then fell apart and been a mess since. All I could see was her in her uniform chatting away to everyone, the place where I would pick her up etc, it was a place she was happy and so many staff knew her. Don’t be hard on yourself think it’s something that is part of the course. X
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Tears are a part of your grief and can be uncontrollable. I’m so sorry for your loss. Try your hardest to think about how they would want you to be and imagine them comforting you and smiling with you and smile too - even through the tears. It seems soon to be going back to work, but if it is necessary then be open and honest with them about your state of emotions and ask for support from them. I wish you the very best and send healing prayers and comfort.
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