Everyone’s getting ready for Christmas and I’m just trying to get through the month.
It’s strange how a season once filled with magic can suddenly feel unbearable.
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I couldn’t agree more. I’m not putting up any decs this year and I can’t even listen to Christmas ads let alone Christmas songs!
I think it’s fair to say that the magic of Christmas has well and truly gone now, it’s instead turned into the most dreaded time of the year 
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Im absolutely dreading Christmas, im not putting any decorations up , i can’t bare it at all, Christmas songs make me so emotional, I will be staying with my daughter but I dont want to spoil it for them, I just have no Christmas spirit at all without my husband here, im so lost.
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Same here. My darling Ray went in October, 12 days after his 60th birthday. Whilst we never bothered about it much, we had our own little traditions together. This year I just want it to be over as soon as possible. Going to shut the door, just me and our precious little cat, Peg. I miss him so much 
there’s an advert on the TV with the theme music of ‘In My Life’ by the Beatles, which was played at his funeral as he was from Liverpool and a proud Scouser, so it cuts through me every time I hear it…
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Im so sorry for your loss, I know exactly how your feeling, its terrible, we had our own little traditions too, it will never be the same without him, I just hate to hear the Christmas songs we used to sing to together, there is just no meaning left at all, I just want it to be over with.
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I can’t bare Christmas anymore, I have tried to get into it but it just makes me so sad. My husband passed away 4 years ago this November. I miss him terribly xx
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Yes Christmas never gets easier or every day….my husband died in November 2019 and it’s still hurts so so much. It is just getting thrown each day and tears fall every morning. He may not be in this world….but he is in mine every day. X
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it will be my 4th one, thefirst was a bit strange but since then i have liked xmas same as i used to, hubby wouldnt expect anything else, heknew i loved it. of course i miss him all the time, i buy his card every yr, and place it near his ashes.
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It’s my first Christmas without my beautiful husband of 46 years. It’s so incredibly hard, he loved this season. Decorating the outside while I did the inside. I managed to put up a few pieces, not the usual as we had accumulated 4 decades of special keep sakes. I forced myself into it for the youngest grandson 2 1/2 who his PaPa absolutely adored. Peace, love and strength to all of us. Pamela
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So sorry for your loss, it will be my first Christmas without my husband, I am dreading it really but will have to put on a brave face for my daughters and grandson, its so hard every day without him, im just so lost, we did everything together.
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We did everything together too. We shared ideas, we motivated each other, an awesome teammate who I miss and grieve beyond measure. It’s been 7 months and I can only hope for the smallest bit of relief someday, some how. Today I’m frozen in darkness, things to do but I just don’t have enough energy right now. Grateful for everyone here who listens. It helps. Nobody close to me around my age 68, friends or family has lost the love of their life. I can’t blame them for not understanding what I’m going through. Can’t be compared to losing your parents, which some of my siblings have done. It’s an unimaginable time in our lives.
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You’re right. Courage and on we go.
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Peace, love and strength to you too. Happy Christmas.
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@Gumby my hubby died in 2022 after 47 yrs together, i am 70 next yr and like you not many peoplev around me have lost anyone, most are younger than the yrs we were togeher. they havent got a clue. one person said to me, well peoples husbands die thats life. like you we did everything together and its hard having to do things on your own.
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I know exactly how your feeling, my days now are just dark lonely times, I dont have friends as I was always with my husband , i cant sleep, i honestly just dont know what to do without him, i feel your pain too.
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This is going to be my first Christmas, without my wife, it will be 11 months on Christmas day, I also lost my Dad on Christmas day last year, so that’s another first. I will be spending it alone. I have got Sue a card and a chocolate orange, I got her s chocolate orange every year. I will get out a old Christmas card,which she wrote to me and put it up next to hers. She is buying me a book and a t- shirt for Christmas. I will admit I’m struggling already. Take care everyone.
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Im so sorry for your loss, it will be my first Christmas without my husband, I found a Christmas card he had already bought for me but not wrote on, its going to be very hard for all of us left behind, I too am struggling, im having an emotional day, seeing people getting on Christmas shopping, its so lonely.
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Gosh we’re all hiding our pain in plain sight. This is my third Christmas without my husband. I’m 67 and met him when I was 19. It’s so right when others say it’s like no other grief. I don’t know how I carry on. Seems pointless, just feel adrift. I too have close family but I don’t share my deepest sorrow, and drag them down.
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I am exactly the same, my children think im doing fine because I put on a brave face for them, I am so broken inside and feel I dont belong anywhere, im so lost and dont know what to do
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David used to deal with anything iffy with my car. 2 days ago I actually cried at the garage where I took my car, I was worried about the tyres. There’s no joy and all the little niggles of life seem monumental exhausting obstacles .
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