I avoid the garage if I can , still full of hubby’s tools, sports equipment etc.
Yesterday I thought I would make a start.
Didn’t get very far tho!!
When I do go in, I always think of a neighbour who had loaned us some sacks to move some stones & not long after my hubby passed , his wife asked me if I came across them , could they have them back. I was so angry & upset I did search for them & dumped them in their drive.
I can laugh at it now & hope the mice have eaten them.
Our shed is full of Doug’s things, the only time I go in is to use the lawnmower or gardening tools and occasionally a screwdriver or hammer.
I’ve told our son he can have a sort through and take anything that might be useful, but I don’t think he has the heart too.
So it’s left to me to keep sweeping away the cobwebs and I hate spiders.
I should have said in previous post, the neighbour of 40 years hasn’t spoken to me since hubby passed ,but wanted his sacks back.
My sister asked if I used anything in the garage - no was my answer - she suggested getting a skip & throwing everything out.
Since wife passed away in January, many said don’t throw her stuff away too soon. Don’t make any hasty decisions you might regret I’m told. So I go some plastic boxes with lids put labels on them and filled them, then put them back of my garage. It will be interesting to see if I dip into them over the next year or so.
Take your own time, my wife passed away 5 years ago and only yesterday I finally decided to take her clothes to a charity shop, they weren’t doing any harm where they were and every time I opened the wardrobe I could touch them and knew she was still with me, they were still in perfect condition but something, I don’t know what, seemed to tap me on the shoulder and said now was the time
So wait until you feel inside you that the time is right to let go, if ever, after all they aren’t doing any harm where your stuff is
Take care x
I have the same my husband‘s garage is absolutely full of him. With his mental illness he used to spend a lot of time in the garage which I totally begrudged and wanted to burn the garage down so often. Now he has passed it’s down to me to sort out the garage. I also have to sort out my sons bedroom which is even harder. I did find the answer to these problems though - sell the house. Now I have no option but to sort out everything. I started on the garage with my two brothers and my mum the other day.
My hubby died 9 months ago and i have only just started clearing his things i find it very hard though so i do a bit each day but i kept a few things that will always remind me of him .You have to do it in your own time and when your ready to do so
My partner passed away 4 months ago I have only emptied two drawers so far.Only socks and t shirts.Last weekend opened The bathroom cabinet for the first time .The lot had to go found it so distressing knowing never be used again …
Know what you mean. Even the small things like the medician bottles remind me of her illness. When my dad died on Xmas day 20 years ago at my house, we totally decorated everywhere. Now my wife and mom gone, I cannot see everything been changed. It seems a different level.
Best wishes and just take your time.
I’m struggling to get rid of things. I can see why people become hoarders. I managed to throw away clothes which were very old and raggedy but so many of my husband’s clothes were fairly new. I have given a few things to our local Sue Ryder charity shop and I wear his T shirts in bed but I’m struggling with his good suits, shoes, shorts etc. Then I had a change of perspective so I’m now trying to think not what I should get rid of but what do I really want to keep? I have a tendancy to faff around a lot and not really getting stuck in to having a proper clear out but my mind is a bit more calm now I’ve looked at it a different way and I don’t feel I’m throwing pieces of him away when I do pass things on or throw things out.
My hubby died 9 months ago i still find it very hard bagging up his clothes up i had a friend to help me but there certain items that i kept as keepsakes he will never be forgotten and at least i have lovely memerioes of him