I’ve recently lost my wife to cancer. Throughout the long lead-up to her death, I was grieving at the same time as trying to present a positive face to her, so by now I’ve been grieving for some considerable time, I feel devastated but at the same time I’m trying to untangle the complex feelings I’m experiencing. A/ Terrible sadness about the awful experience that she had, and what has finally happened to her despite my best efforts. Somehow it’s as if I feel I need to keep in touch with her, as if she still needs my help in some way. I will need to get over that. B/ I feel a huge sense of personal loss, my wonderful wife and friend has simply gone for ever. C/ I’m concerned about my future, part of my identity has disappeared. D/ I feel a need for a new someone to love, I can’t see myself going forward as a single person when I know how good love is.
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Ed9 I totally understand we’re you are coming from that loss of identity is hell even something simple like a new next of kin and having to say I’m a widow it’s all sadness and is that the price we pay for love love is kind and generous I feel punished I didn’t realise that I don’t want to be on my own I want to be in a partnership I miss the emotional intimacy my dear husband died in January and I want me back the happy positive bossy plan maker thinking of you it’s so tough wishing you well
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Ed you have just wrote down me and my last year with Mandy and how I feel EXACTLY right now .
I’m 100% feeling just this
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