Hello I’ve just joined this forum omg that is the most beautiful shrine you’re mum would be so happy with that the peace that surrounds it it’s just so peaceful x
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Hiya 
Sorry you had to meet us all under such sad circumstances but welcome to be as involved as you want or don’t want.
Sorry for your loss x
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Yer I feel like this will help I have a great husband but I feel like he’s too close to really understand he’s never had anyone die in his family so I seem to think that maybe he can’t fully understand me does that sound selfish?
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Nope doesn’t sound selfish at all especially if it’s all still recent and raw x
Everyone here understands the need for self care and a bit of selfishness to help us navigate this crap called grief x
I don’t obviously know your circumstances that leads you to join us (and that is not a hint to tell us all) but this bunch here are saviours as they give support, advice, compassion and love and i for one would have been lost without them x
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That’s ok my dad passed in December 2020 only went in to hospital with breathing issues and never came home and my mum was diagnosed with terminal lung Cancer last October no one saw this one coming I feel so low I’ve never loved anyone the way I love my mum & dad x
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Hi @Kirsty79 ,
It’s Christine that has drawn most of us to this thread with her beautiful shrine. Most in this thread have lost a parent but with me it’s my husband.
As Suzanne said drop in and out as much as you want to.
Love Debbie X
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Christine and her shrine have saved more people than she probably could of imagined and I’ll be forever grateful she started this thread. Sorry you’ve found us under these circumstances xx
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Hello Christine
It’s always a pleasure to know you have posted when I have a look at how people are doing. I empathize with you having had some upset time again. I often think the times of the year and change of season can bring on some of these severe dips. I had to go to the shops yesterday in town and decided to walk through the park with him and Zoe instead of pounding the urban pavements and you could see the large clumps of snowdrops and swathes of crocus forming. It brings both sadness and light doesn’t it, nature is a remarkable thing. The Park as you can imagine was full of dogs and as Zoe is in season I was hoping she’d not escape and produce 11 mini German Shepherd puppies in a couple of months time! I know you’ll be worrying about Porsche getting older but if she’s eating well it’s one worry less for you. I can imagine Porsche certainly enjoys the good life!
Spent all Saturday dragging railway sleepers and bricks back across the garden after having some work done and had a look at what was living and what wasn’t out of all my plants. I’ve definitely lost a rose that I bought and a few more bits but it looks like the roses in the ground will be ok. I’m trying not to spend a lot of money on plants etc if in case there is another hot Summer. Plus we have swapped to a water meter now.
Glad you got to go swimming. Read about your costume calamity. Good thing someone was on hand to help out!
Been doing some more Diamond Art. I don’t seem to be able to do the glittering sun-catchers and it’s taken me this long to realise it’s because I’d do them when Mum was here and sub-consciously the association was too painful. The Diamond Art wasn’t a hobby when Mum was here so there is no connection but isn’t it strange the way the mind works. Like you though, anything I do feels a bit empty as, like a big kid, I’m wanting to show Mum what I’ve done but can’t.
I look forward to seeing your fabric work in the future again. I look the different textures you put together.
Are you treating yourself to pancakes this year. I haven’t decided!
I’ll pop back soon.
Much love xx
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Hi Nick
It’s a nice story that you felt your spirits lift when you came back to UK. Although I can imagine a bit of sadness mixed in as well. Home is where you feel your best and you can’t buy contentment. I can understand it brings the tears. You don’t need to feel bad about sharing tears with here, we’ve all done it and we all understand.
Look forward to your posts and photos. It brightens the day of us all.
Much love xx
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Hi Neil.
Hope the start of the new week will be kind to you. I hope the footie lived up to expectations. I can’t congratulate or commiserate with you as I don’t know the outcome!
When is your next show/concert planned for? I can’t recall if you said you had something already lined up.
You should treat yourself more often to some nice chocolate!
Much love xx
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Hello Kirsty.
Like everyone else I just wanted to say Hi, and so sorry you have a need to be here.
It’s comforting to know we are among those who understand and as Suzanne said, you can be as involved as you like. Sometimes we may feel too down to post but just prefer to read and that’s perfectly fine.
Sending kindness
xx
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Hi Tina
Unfortunately the football did not go our way but that certainly did not surprise me !
Next show is tomorrow evening and it’s the opera The Rhinegold at the London Coliseum where I have kept on with my membership. With opera it is very hit and miss but even then if this ones a miss( the staging mostly) the music is guaranteed to be great as it’s Wagner and doesnt get much better than that!
Decided to give myself a little treat once a week when I go shopping- either from the bakery or chocolate of some kind!
Wishing you a kind and peaceful week
Sending love and best wishes
Neil x
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Was reading your post Tina and just realised you are spot on with what you said about changing habits/hobbies so in essence there is no connection with what you did with your mum.
That explains why I can’t watch certain programmes/films and even wear certain clothes especially the ones I was wearing the last weekend we were away before it all went Pete Tong 
x
See you are a clever lady despite what you say about yourself xx
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Have a fantastic time at your opera tomorrow Neil as it certainly seems to be a show you are looking forward to x as you said at least you are guaranteed good music 
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I think treating yourself weekly even to something small like a cake is a must to keep spirits up. Just now (without sounding a stereotypical woman…can I say that nowadays lol) I seem to trawl Vinted and buy shoes lol x got an amazing bargain my to my friend’s annoyance lol if a brand new pair of Star Wars Vans with tags, never worn for £20’! Possibly a bit extravagant but I just thought ‘what the hell?’ 
x
Do you have any plans to go anywhere before the opera tomorrow like take in a museum or that? x
Anyway have a great time and look forward to seeing your photos x
Much love 
x
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Oh Kirsty I’m sorry to hear of your recent loss of your dad. Apologies about your mum’s diagnosis too x
Do you have much support around you just now? x are you managing to do anything to lift your spirits at all even if it’s only for 10 mins? x
If you ever want to talk about your dad and mum then we are all hear to listen x
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@christine51 always lovely to read your posts and nice to hear about you swimming and don’t take your nieces radio silence about your arrangements personally as they are a law unto themselves at that age. I messaged my niece with a request from her mum and because she didn’t want to do it she just blanked me x seriously at that age they are just twats and reckon cause we love them we’ll let them away with it lol x
What are your plans for this week? I was in court supporting a friend today as her ex was up and was a total shambles and have a couple of days off so have told myself I am tidying the house and then at the end of the week catching up with a few people. My cousin has invited me to her new house for a catch up so could be doing with a bit of advice…what kind of potted plant do you recommend I take her as a housewarming present? Preferably one that thrives on neglect lol x
Anyway take care and chat soon 
x
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Hi Suzanne
Yes its important to treat ourselves even something small. I’ve been buying an easter egg for myself while they are 75p ( cheaper than a bar of chocolate) and every time I go shopping add another one all the time they are that price.
Read some revues of The Rhinegold for tomorrow. Interesting to say the least- dwarves, giants, pole dancing, a naked man and a rainbow bridge. Apparently it works very well with Wagner’s brilliant music so the critics say so certainly wont be dull 
Will post some pics on Wednesday as will be home quite late tomorrow
Have a good evening
Sending love and best wishes
Neil x
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Evening all. Popping in. Been at work all day and kids are settled and I’m shattered. I hope you’ve had a good time tonight Neil.
Sending love to all xxx
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Ah thankyou sweetie I feel so lonely and I’m scared I know that there is so much crap in the world but it seem’s that I’ve had my share of death basically it started from 1997 when my beloved nanny passed who was waiting for me to return from holiday but I missed my train and couldn’t get back to be with her when she passed I was told that my beautiful nan was waiting for me but Just couldn’t hold on any longer then jump 14 year’s later and my neice had a stillborn she was only 18 at the time then I lost all 4 of my fur babies over the space of four year’s then my uncle died in August 2018 I adored that man then my wonderful dad passed in 2020 and then my godfather passed away in the year 2021 and in 2022 my gorgeous mum was diagnosed with lung Cancer and now who is dying slowly Just seem’s how do you carry on x
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Oh Kirsty. I just don’t know what to say. You’ve been through it. Life can be so cruel. But we somehow carry on. We have to. For those we have lost. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. So sorry. We are here. Xx
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