I lost my daughter last Feb ,we thought she had died from toxic poisoning !we have now found out that she was murdered !
They call it domestic homicide ,we were informed by email last Thursday , we have no more information !
Ido not know how to cope with this .Her inquest has been cancelled from next week to November !
What do I do ? I feel lost ,I miss her so very much !!! And now this ?!
I just want to be with her ,so very much , I feel like I’m not coping at all it’s so raw !
I’m her next of kin ,and I know nothing how can this happen .
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I’m so sorry for the loss of your daughter, @Juliewo1 - that is devastating. It’s understandable that you’re feeling so lost right now.
You’re not alone; sadly, many of our members have experienced the loss of a child and will understand some of what you’re going through.
Please do think about getting in touch with SAMM - Support After Murder and Manslaughter. You can call them on 0121 472 2912 or text 07342 888570.
You may also want to contact The Compassionate Friends. They support families who have lost a child of any age. They have a grief companion scheme where you can get 1-1 support from another bereaved parent. You can call them on 0345 123 2304.
I hope you find the community to be a support to you, too. Take good care,
Seaneen
Oh my goodness what emotional rollercoaster this is for you I don’t have any words that I can say, you must be so upset. I hope you get Answers soon and if you are struggling please reach out and get some support I know it’s hard to even think about that right now. Day by day big hugs
I’m so very very sorry you are part of this club. I too lost my daughter 39 weeks ago. My heart is broken and always will be, as will yours. You sadly have the added pain of the cause of your daughter’s death. Keep messaging on here and reaching out to people.
Big hugs xxx
Thank you so much for the support you have given me , I will use the phone contacts you gave .
It is so very hard to cope with all that has been going on ,I don’t really have a good support system ,so rely on vallium to get me through.
I’m hoping to feel better after my daughter’s inquest ,but, as they now suspect
domestic homicide God knows . . .
No one really understands in my family just how much all of this has nearly killed me ,I just put on an act , then cry alone, it is torture .
Thanks again for caring and to get in touch ,it has meant so much to me ,it’s lovely to know that there are good people like you out there !
Thanks again J xx
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Hi Emmybear ,
Thank you for getting in touch , it’s so hard losing my girl
I love her so much !
Thanks j w
Dear bam ,
Thank you so much for getting in touch.
I’m very sorry that you have also lost your girl
I don’t think people understand just how soul destroying this is .
I really hope and pray you have had more support than I have .
I feel like I am the only one in the world that cared about my daughter . She was forty when she was found alone in her house .
I feel lost and alone , I loved her so very much ,she was hard work ,alcohol had claimed her soul , she was difficult to deal with , but,
that didn’t stop me from loving her !
It was the alcohol that stole her from me ,
when she was well she was lovely ,sweet and very kind .
I wish you well, take care ,
J Wxx
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This is my first time here.
Juliewo 1, your story resonated with me.
I lost my daughter Brittany in 2019 and my life has fallen apart since.
She had a substance problem for many years and it was a contributor to her death.
She was 35.
I have no joy or will to actually live life.
I let small problems turn into huge problems because i just don’t care anymore.
I’ve neither the will or energy to do anything but hide.
I’m so sorry that you, i or anyone else have lost our most precious beings.
I wish you love and healing.
~pip~
Dear Juliewo1 You poor sweet lady. Words cannot describe your pain. I am so sorry but sorry is such an inadequate word for the suffering you are going through. My dearest daughter passed away 3 months ago - she had developed sepsis after being told her leukaemia was in remission. It was so quick there was no hope. It is heartbreaking and she is so missed. I carry her in my heart and it will be forever. I like to believe she is with her husband who passed 12 year ago. We are supporting the yound adult children as best we can. We do not want to be here in this sad sad club. God bless you lovely lady.
I am sorry we all find ourselves here @pipsqueex you spoke of my life.
Everyday I give myself a goal, I try to manage one thing, just one. It can be making a long overdue call to the bank, clean the windows or cut the grass, even managing a shower. But I find the day has passed and all my energy has been spent on fighting the tidal wave of grief the loss of my beautiful girl has created.
I push down the memories, banish music and avoid her image. I live in denial, I cannot accept she has gone and nothing or no one can help alleviate this pain.
It has been 2 years now and I just want her home, she was just 21 and she needs me as I need her.
This page, this site should not exist, we should not be grieving our children.
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So sorry to hear that your daughter passed and there is now an investigation. Contact your local police station and speak to somebody in CID, they might be able to give you limited information.
To keep going, try to think of anything you can tell them that might help. It will give your brain something to do.
Try to stay strong.