50 days since life took the most painful of turns. Lost my wife suddenly and unexpectedly. Struggling to complete simple tasks and pain is tough. Sending best wishes to those in a similar position and am comforted by messages from those working through their grief. Take care everyone!
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Dear Mike, so sorry for your loss. My wonderful husband died suddently and unexpectedly (heart attack) 71 days ago and my world totally changed. I miss him more than I can say. Although I am still in great pain and grief, I find moments in the day when I am calm and can function almost normal. Hope you also can find some peaceful moments during your day and remembering the love of you wife can bring some comfort. All the best!
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Hi @MikeH2
I am sorry for your loss and you’re on the grief journey none of us wanted to be on it . I lost my husband 7 and half months ago suddenly unexpectedly cardiac arrest. I miss him terribly. any get lonely . I do have some days when I get through the days pretty well . And other days which are not so good . I hope you have family support, look after your self
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Hi Mike, I’m sorry to hear that you are suffering. The first couple months looking back were really tough. My wife died four and a half months ago and things have improved though there are dark moments. I hope you have plenty of support from family and friends
Wishing you all the best
Tom
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Hi mikeh2
Sorry for the loss off your wife I know its hard and I wish I could say it gets easier but I lost my wonderful husband 5 yrs ago and not a day goes by when I don’t think of him I send you lots of hugs to help you feel better
Sweetlady
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Hi Anita, thanks for reaching out. I hope that you are managing ok and have lots of support. The deaths sound very similar. Some days good….others bad. Take care and you are not alone
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Hi Brandon; thanks for reaching out. Take care of yourself
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Hi Sweetlady; thanks for taking the time to reach out. I hope your path forward becomes less painful. Take care
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Hi Sherbert10, thanks for taking the time to reach out. Some days ok- others terrible. Please take care of yourself
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Hi Mike, yes that’s exactly it. Yesterday morning was horrid, today am a lot better. I have some support, not lots . Hope you also are managing and are getting support and keep posting if you feel like it. This site has certainly been a life line to me
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I called it a rollercoaster. as the days are up and down. Look after yourself.
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I’m 9 weeks from losing my soul mate of 33yrs, suddenly without warning. I wake up feeling devastated and go to bed feeling devastated, with some semblance of normal in between. Every day is horrendous but I’m trying my best for my family and for my 2 fur babies, who are literally keeping me going. I left home earlier to do the shopping feeling normal ish but when I parked up I couldn’t get out of the car. Everyone around me was doing their normal Saturday shop and I just wanted to scream and cry. I know it’s early days but I can’t see a time when I will come to terms with what has happened.
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Hi Victoria, so sorry for your loss and welcome to the club that none of us wanted to join. I lost my soulmate of 35 years 11 weeks ago of a totally unexpected heart attack. The anxiety and shock were horrible for the first few weeks so I went to see the GP. For the past month I have been taking propanolol for some of the symptoms (like heart palpitations) and nytol to manage to sleep and doing counselling . I do notice that I am a bit better than I was a month ago, fewer mornings with horrid anxiety - have tried seeing your GP?
I find this group to be a life line, lots of excellent advice and very kind helpful people who are further along the grief path or who are going through very similar things. Am sending you a virtual hug and wishing you a peaceful night! 
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Hi Victoria
I am so sorry for loss , I lost my husband suddenly cardiac arrest nearly 8 months ago . The shock is awful the first few months are hard . If you haven’t been to see your gp . Like Anita had suggested then get in touch with them . Take things very slowly one day at a day . Just focus on one thing at a time. Make sure you eating and drinking. Every body understands on here . Keep posting look after yourself. Sending you a hug
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Hi Victoria, I’m so sorry to hear about your situation. The first couple of months after my wife dying were very painful and difficult to control the tears. Things started to improve over the next couple of months where there were some bad days mixed with days that were manageable. I found it very beneficial to do plenty of exercise and walking in nature both of which help to reduce cortisol which alleviates anxiety. I see you like yoga and I find doing a bit of yoga every morning helpful too. I hope you find posting on this site as useful as I have . Being able to communicate with such nice people who understand the suffering you are going through is really comforting.
Wishing you all the strength you will need.
All the best
Tom
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Hi all, I’m so grateful for all of your supportive messages and the stories shared. Common sense tells me that being overwhelmed with grief is normal, however unbearable that may be. My husband died 2 weeks after a cancer diagnosis, having had no symptoms at all, we were well and truly blindsided and totally destroyed. I’m going to my first bereavement meeting next week at the hospital where he died, not sure I’ll last the duration but going to give it a go. Good luck to you all 
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I have found going to a bereavement cafe and I had cruise counselling to be beneficial. I hope it helps you
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@Victoria1192
Hope manage to get some sleep tonight
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