Does anybody else feel guilty about what they did wrong or that didn’t do the right thing when they should have done? My wife, Helen, died nine weeks ago today having been diagnosed with lung cancer some 6 months earlier. I am feeling guilty, no I am guilty, that I did so little to make amends for the tough times and also guilty that I didn’t give her enough love in the time we had left. This is getting in the way of grieving for Helen as herself (and this brings on the tears again) for what a loving and caring person she was.
I realise this is self pitying and that things cannot be changed but I then think of the 3 holidays we managed in the 6 months left and realise how lucky we were when others have had sudden bereavements. I am finding it really difficult to work through this despite a very good son, Helen’s friends and our neighbours. If you have got this far, thanks for reading.