Dealing with the loss of my husband

My husband who I was married to for 54 wonderful years passed away on December the 17th 2022 after being diagnosed with a terminal brain tumour. It turned my world upside down the grief is unbearable and life doesn’t seem the same. My family are in the same situation numb and not believing what has happened to a loving caring and happy Dad. Life isn’t fair as he was taken from us too soon and so quickly we are taking one day at a time but it is hard not seeing him everyday enjoying days together as a family laughing and having fun. This has been taken away from all the family and left us heartbroken. I just feel so empty without my darling Terry and the kids feel the same about their Dad too. I still think he is going to walk through the door each day asking me what are we going to do today like he always did with his smiling face. He always use to say smile all the time and it makes the days good bless him.I cry such a lot at many.things photos,places we used to go but mostly watching people our age going out with each other walking holding hands as we did that really hurts so bad. I miss Terry so much and I am really struggling as my kids are . Sorry it is a long message but when your heart is broken it’s the only way to let out your feelings

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Aw i know … my husband passed 16th december 2022 … he was only 60 ! Its so unfair this horrible life is ! I feel your pain xxx

I agree. Seeing other couples out and about together. Sitting in cafes having a cup of tea I want to go up to them and tell them to treasure those moments. Of course I don’t, but I’d give anything to have those times back with my wonderful man.

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It really hurts doesn’t? You can’t explain to anyone the terrible feeling you have when you see couples out with each other and you have been left on your own without your loved one to face situations like this.

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So sorry for your loss of your husband and so young. We share the same pain I am sure. We have to take one day at a time with many tears shed each day

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Thank you @MargaretP23 i have just seen this for some reason ? I hope youre doing ok too ? Its a struggle isnt it each day … but as you say one day at a time. Each day seems to bring up new challenges we have to deal with without our darling husbands … i honestly dont think i realised how much him being here meant so much to me and how much i cherished that ! I certainly do now :frowning: x

My husband is just 43 with 2 young boys and terminal cancer, so I can empathise with the feelings that they have been taken too soon. Life is unfair x

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Hi Margaret. I too have only just seen your post as I joined this group but then decided I wasnt ready to read other peoples stories. I lost my husband 21 months ago at the age of 52. You and everyone in the same boat have my full sympathy. My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 in June 2021 and was given 2 years but died 5 months later of Sepsis. One day I sent him to hospital with low blood levels and the next day he was gone. But I thank goodness I made it on time to spend the last 40 minutes with him, but it wasnt a peaceful passing and very traumatic for me. There is no advice to give I dont think as we all grieve and cope in different ways, but a group like this might help you to talk about things.

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It’s an up hill struggle for us all different feelings we get everyday but what we all know is that our husbands and wives are gone from us forever. Our love for them will still go on and will treasure all the years we have had with them.I am still heartbroken as I’m sure you are too a day at a time is all that we can do. Hugs to you all xxx Margaret

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