Happy Mother’s Day to our 
beloved mums always in our hearts and thoughts and also to those of us who have the privilege of being a mum.
Lots of love to all. Kate 
xxxx
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Happy Birthday Deborah
It’s tough I know, but try to enjoy today with your family.
Thinking of you.
Love Kate xxx
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Hello all,
Well Mothers Day is here and it’s tough… Let’s hope we have the strength to get through the day. My daughter is making me fluffy pancakes from scratch ( she is 11 years old) for MD - I wanted to cancel the day to be honest but not fair on her . I’m still here. Happy Birthday Deborah - try to have a lovely day with your family / son. Hard as it is , we must remember how important we are and to somebody ( probably to many) we are the most important person in their lives. Is a privilege xx
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Hi Helen,Kate and Julest,
What a difficult day today has been.Will be so glad when it’s over. Haven’t done much and just want to be left alone so that’s what my family have done.I got up early and made a cooked dinner but couldn’t eat a thing I just dished out the food then went for a shower as an excuse to be on town out of the way. Then I took mum’s ashes and went for a drive to a beach that we used to go together and sat in the car looking at the sea I am going to head up to her house later and stay there for a few days I will probably offend my son and husband but I just want to be alone It is such an emotional day with remembering mother’s day in the past and what we did. Not opening a birthday card from mum today was simply awful but I kept telling myself that if she could have sent me one she would have. I am like all of you . I just feel so sad today
Deborah x
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Oh Deborah I’m so sorry it’s particularly difficult for you. It’s a shame you weren’t able to spend the time with your son but I think at the moment it’s just getting through however you can. Maybe next year will be more about you as a mum? We can start making new traditions. I was thinking it would be nice for me and my sisters to go out for a meal and lay some flowers somewhere for mum, somewhere she loved. Not necessarily the actual day but within Mother’s Day week. I felt like I just let the day pass this year. We will all be in a different place next year. I really hope now birthday/Mother’s Day is done with we can all look towards the next milestone. It might not feel like it, but just getting past these events is progress.
We are all hoping that we can forge some kind of normal life again. A different kind of normal. This grief is not a nice place to be. We must go through it and look for some light somewhere along the path.
Our mums are always our mums and we are always their daughters. Nothing will ever change that and nothing will change the love we have for them. We will feel that love for the rest of our lives. We will see our mums again Deborah. I know it. I wish I was closer to you so I could give you a great big hug. Sending you lots of love Helen xxx
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Hi Deborah
I’m so sorry yesterday was so hard, A double first in one day…no wonder you feel as you do.
I got through yesterday and a few people checked in on me from Uk. Alex made a lovely card for his gran and I put it up on the shelf next to her photo/ashes with flowers, I lit a candle and put out her card from last year.
This morning I noticed Alex’s card had fallen down onto the unit below. Maybe it was just a coincidence, but I saw it as a sign mum was thanking her boy for the beautiful card.
He made one for his dad too as it was father’s day here but that one didn’t fall down…
I hope you find comfort at your mum’s house.
Thinking of you, take care.
Love K xxx
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