Today I have a terrible, overwhelming feeling of sadness, hopelessness etc. I wonder, once more, why “grief” itself has to be such a negative, destructive force. Why have we evolved in such a way ? Why isn’t grief softer, more gentle?
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Hello, grief is bad , it takes hold of us and doesn’t want to let go, but our memories and the love we had for our departed loved ones has to be stronger, it will take awhile to start to even feel a little bit better, but we will, and our grief will diminish, it has to, I know my husband wouldn’t want me to be sad all the time. I will keep on living, cherish and honor my husband’s memory , One day we’ll be reunited with our loved ones. Until that day we have to keep on living, not just existing, God bless
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Hi - i found your words interesting - I find it hard to pull myself out of the sadness. I put on my determination head and set about tasks in the day - then I find my self passing something or touching something that reminds me of my husband and I find it stops me in my tracks and takes me back - the physical feeling of grief. I’ve been doing this since he died - I haven’t found a way pass this yet, but I keep trying. I dont have the answers but I resonate with what you write.
I find your words quite inspiring and a lovely reminder of the last real conversation I had with my lovely husband - about living a happy life after he was gone. I will keep in mind your wise words. thank you for sharing - blessings
Hello Pilot, thank you for your words as well. I know what you mean about the littlest things remind you of your spouse, . I was cleaning out my car, and I found a little bag of peanuts, a bag of peanuts, and that reminded me of my husband. We would always stop at this little gas station when we would take a trip to his doctors appointments, it was 2 hours away, so we’d stop and get a snack and something to drink. Those peanuts were from one of those trips, and as soon as I saw them, it hit me, tears coming down my face. I threw them in the trash, maybe I should go get them back
. I want to get to a place where I can come across reminders of him and just be able to smile or laugh, but I admit im not there yet. I cry. We were married for 35 years. It’s not easy to all of the sudden live a different life. You take care and God bless you 
Hi - thank you your reply. thats a lot years - you will have many many memories. My husband i made 30 years. My home and garden just calls out to me his presence, the things he did, liked and things we shared together. A blessing and a painful reminder. What you describe - finding those little things and their impact. I dont have the right words to describe - just know it happens here too. Peaceful thoughts with u this evening .
Hello may you have a peaceful evening as well. God bless
Hi , thank you fir sharing this - interesting to see grief in this way, snd uplifting. Thank you
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