Devastated

Coping with bereavement
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Hello Everyone
Mother’s Day is getting closer,I’m dreading it, Even though Lucy and I weren’t married, and didn’t have any children I always bought her a card and chocolates and flowers on mother’s Day,She use to call me Dad,And I would call Lucy Mum, I’m still going to do it every year,

That day will be another unbearable day,I’m feeling more lost as time goes by Losing Lucy Wednesday 20th October 2021 feels like it’s yesterday,I’m still not eating only fluids,I’m dying of a Broken :broken_heart:I know soon enough if I don’t eat,my life if that’s what you can call it, will take a turn.

I’m Not living I’m Existing, that’s a fact,I have nothing without Lucy,

Anyone else going through the same,Not eating at All.
Please drop me a line or two,
Sending you all lots of :sparkling_heart: and :pray:
Martin xx xx

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Hi I have only just started to eat a little. I have survived on coffee and fags . But I had to go back to work to pay the bills . So I could function I had to try and eat a little . I don’t want this life without hubby . I ask him every night to come and get me . I know if he could he would of the first time I asked him. So I will just have to plod on till its my time to be with him . Take care x

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Hello Martin,
I’m so sorry to read your post and hear that you’re feeling more lost as time goes by. Mother’s day is yet another milestone and a difficult time for many in this community, so you are not alone.

I was worried to hear that you’ve not been eating and it sounds like you’re coping with some really difficult feelings at the moment. Are you getting any support from anywhere? Friends or family, or perhaps someone like your GP or a counsellor? It is normal to go through these emotions and you’ll see other people here talk about struggling to eat, but it’s important to get some support. I would encourage you to reach out, perhaps to one of these services:

  • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.
  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text SHOUT to 85258 and talk to them about anything.
  • You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline .
  • Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: http://www.sueryder.org/counselling

Take care of yourself and please do consider reaching out for some more support.
Eleanor

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I keep begging my husband to come and get me too. He promised he would never leave me and I don’t know how we are supposed to carry on alone. Gary died on the 2nd November last year and my body as well as my heart has hurt since. It is reassuring that I am not going mad and that other people react in these ways too.

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