Difficult emotions

My dad passed away April this year. I also had a baby 3 weeks after his death. Dad was fit and healthy. We went to the hospital for a routines check and were informed dad had stomach cancer which spread to the liver, lungs. He died 5 weeks after this diagnoses. He never came home. He stayed in hospital then straight to the hospice. I can’t get my head round it. I feel sick when I think about him not being here. Plus I am a new mum which I love bit when do I get time to grieve? No one asks me how I am because they just want to focus on my new son. I feel so alone. Can anyone give me any tips to cope?

Hi Angie,

I just wanted to say hello and let you know that someone had read your post. I am so sorry to hear that your dad passed away so shortly before your son was born. You must have so many conflicting emotions and it sounds as though you’re feeling overwhelmed.

I’m glad that you’ve found this site and I hope that it gives you a space to grieve and be open about how you are really feeling. There are other members here who know what it’s like to lose a loved one. Hopefully some of them will be along soon to reply to you. In the mean time, you may want to check out these conversations from Lindsey and EJ, who have also lost a parent and have young children to look after:

https://support.sueryder.org/community/coping-death-loved-one/missing-my-mum
https://support.sueryder.org/community/coping-death-loved-one/struggling-losing-my-dad

Do you have a partner or any other family who can support you? Can you try letting them know that you are struggling and that you need some time to grieve? They may be able to support you more with looking after your son.

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