Do you worry your life over now ?

I have a lot of memories with mum going out, going places, going on holiday together. I got little funds at the moment, and most holidays are based on 2 sharing. So do you feel your life is now over ? it’s not the same no more, and it does feel happy occasions will be fewer going forward.

Hi @Keith68
Totally agree with everything you said, I think it’s about learning to live and enjoy life in a completely different way, and as we’re used to habits of a lifetime, the prospect is so scary. Obviously I don’t listen to my own advice, I was going to join a tai chi class last week but chickened out because of lack of motivation. Im determined to go next week though!! I think it’s just trying to move forward but with patience and accepting it’s a very hard path we’re on.
Take care and keep looking for your getaway :sparkles:

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I wish you luck with your life, I was going to create another thread on here. Because it never stops, a solo journey on the road of grieve.

I had chats, why haven’t I done this or that ? it’s very hard when you are on your own, much easier to be motivated when you share your life with someone. At the end of the day, yes as a parent gets older they do become a burden to you and maybe you wished you was on your own. But when it does happen the isolation and loneliness is just as bad. You have no one to talk or convide in no more, the person you could talk to or relate to or trust is not there no more. The tears don’t stop, because you know you lost the person you trusted and did so much with. You might get a break with work and feel better, but when not at work it comes back. People haven’t got a clue they tell you, they care but sometimes this doesn’t seem to be the case at all. I actually talked to myself whilst in the flat alone!

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I talk to myself as well, it must be part of grieving, I’ve read somewhere that we Europeans are bad at grieving, it’s because no-one talks about it and it gets ignored, its no wonder we are absolutely floored when it happens
Take care Keith, keep posting

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I thought I’d be organised this year and booked several holidays for mum and me but the she died in January without going on any of them. I didn’t want to cancel as I know she would want me to go. The different holiday companies I’d booked through were great and just split the bill in half so I don’t have to pay under occupancy. It will probably be too expensive to go away next year. Look out for holidays that don’t charge single supplements. xx

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Care to share your wisdom ? don’t think I could afford to go anywhere at the moment. DWP are investigating my mum’s will. Should know soon though, but what ever happens I still feel down, I guess!

Sorry I don’t have any wisdom. Just feeling super depressed & very tired.

Hi @Victoria22
Not a good day for me either. Hopefully a bit better tomorrow, take care xx

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I lived with dad for several years and we did everything together. I have a few friends, but none of them are interested in doing the things dad and I liked to do, so yes, it feels like my life is over in that sense. And you’re at a disadvantage as a single person in our society. As you say, travel is more expensive etc.

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But somehow we do need to find a solution to a problem. Or continue feeling miserable and depressed for the rest of our lives.

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True enough, but I haven’t found a solution yet. I’m not too keen on throwing myself into socialising with new people either, though I suppose that might help.

I know it’s not easy, like I said things not working out for me at the moment. I’m very limited what I can or can’t do. It’s doesn’t help me at all. I hardly have any money to have future plans at the moment. Government are making life difficult for me, my mum passed away last August and still doesn’t have a tomb stone.

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Sorry to hear the government is making things difficult! Money is an issue for me too, so it does feel rather hopeless at times.

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Same here, I lived with Dad and we did everything together. Feel so alone now. Just trying to get though each day.

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Yep that sounds familiar.