Does anyone else believe that our loved ones come back to visit us through signs such as flickering lights, through music, moving objects, in our dreams, feather and rocks placed in our paths? Or is it us just wishing and hoping? Are we just holding on to hope because we are grieving so much…?
When my daughters father was badly beaten, he was airlifted to a London hospital, and passed away 5 days later. In those 5 days before he passed away I was grieving as I knew the extent of his injuries, and the emergency surgery he had where they removed his forehead bone. I kept having this feeling he was not going to pull through, and so I was grieving before he had passed away. I was exhausted, not eating much, hysterically crying all the time. The night he passed away I fell asleep and woke up in the middle of the night by this high pitched electricity noise in my ear. It could not have been my phone as I had forgotten to put it on charge, and the charger was downstairs so it could not have been that. I am also a really heavy sleeper. It made me jump and I actually fully woke up from it.
When he was alive he was an electrician, which also made me wonder.
When I first met him in 2006, there was a song I associated with him that was in the charts at the time, and I heard it come on the radio, twice in one day. It’s rarely ever played.
When I went to the crematorium the day after he was cremated, I was alone, and the sky was really grey, as soon as I said his name and spoke out loud to him, the clouds parted and the sky suddenly went really blue. I took a photo of it also.
Let me know your thoughts and if you believe in these things also…
Lady D x
Hi Lady D, I’m so sorry for your loss.
Yes I do believe, it’s only happened twice but I felt the sensation of someone sitting on the bed next to me, just after I had been talking to my husband, which I do every night before I go to bed.
I know he is with when I’m in the garden, I feel his presence everywhere, it was his favourite place to be.
I have a strong faith and I know I’m going to be with him again one day, and I do believe he does listen to me when I’m chatting to him.
I’m hurting so much right now, I’m not sure if I’m just holding onto hope or if it is real. I wish we knew for sure there was life after death.
I’m tired but I can’t sleep, I’m hungry but can’t eat. I’m just managing the bare minimum for my children at the moment, and neglecting myself. I’m constantly searching for answers on the internet about scientific studies that were done on people who passed away and were resuscitated, regarding what they saw and heard. I just want answers but I do not seem to have any…
Grieving just feels like constant inner pain.
I’ve been put on sertraline antidepressants. The initial side effects will make me feel unstable and emotional. But I know once they start working after a few weeks I’ll stop obsessing about every little detail
What you are feeling, all those emotions and the constant searching for answers is normal and all part of you grieving journey. You are still very much in the early days of grief and everything is so raw and painful. I remember in the early months just existing not living. Trying to get through each day one step at a time.
I’ve not researched scientific theories about what happens after death. Mine comes from my faith and being a christian.
I know when I die I will see my husband again.
Don’t expect to much too soon, give yourself time, the pain never goes away you just learn to live with it. Your not leaving you husband behind you are taking him with you, he will always be in your heart.
Debbie X X
Unfortunately he was never my husband, in fact we had been separated for quite a long time. It still hurts just the same though.
What I don’t understand and have no explanation for, is why am I grieving like he was my current partner? I don’t understand these feelings. I guess I never stopped loving him, and just shut out my feelings when we split up.
People say to me “wow you really are cut up about him passing away despite not seeing him for years!”
I just don’t know what to say, I don’t understand it either.
You still shared part of your life together, so it still is going to be painful. Grief doesn’t follow rules it effects us all in different ways.
I hope with the help of you doctor you can find a way forward.
Debbie X X
LadyD, I found your post here just a few minutes after something ‘strange’ happened to me too. Firstly, I want to say my heart goes out to you for your loss, it’s been 18 months for me but it seems like yesterday. I was just loading my washing machine in the laundry room with the light switched on and I suddenly had one of my sudden attacks where I start crying out for him and ask him: “Where are you? Where are you?” The light bulb suddenly flickered, I repeated the question and again the flicker. I waited a while in silence, it didn’t happen again.
I don’t know if it’s just me longing to have him in my arms so much, I did feel relieved for a moment that he was with me though.
Understand exactly how you’re feeling.
All the best to you.
Reading that just made the hairs on my arms stand up on end. You must be feeling so overwhelmed with your experience just then…
Also, my washing machine is nearly a year old, and my dishwasher is only about 9 months old. On the 19th may there was water coming out from underneath my dishwasher leaving a puddle on my floor, and on the 20th may water was leaking from my washing machine door. It was dripping very quickly. Not just the odd drip here and there. Neither have been looked at by a professional, but they haven’t leaked since!
Was this a sign? I wish I knew… x