I have been on here for a week or two asking for help to get over my bereavement. Today, I was thinking about things, death, coping, will I ever be able to carry. Then I had a thought - when I was 14 Yastrzemski old, I lost my beloved Nana, my Granddad and my dog all in the pace
Its will get better my son is over a year gone now & I have stopped crying every day to maybe once a week! I’m still texin him & telling him I love him& miss him & allsorts of stuff!
If you cant tex
write talk it helps I promise!
Ur in my PRAYERS!
Apologies, my last attempt at a post turned out all wrong and total rubbish (dratted prescriptive text and pressing send too soon) so here it is again (hopefully correct this time)
I have been on here for a week or two asking for help to get over my bereavement. Today, I was thinking about things, death, coping, will I ever be able to carry on and make a new life alone. Then I had a thought - when I was 14 years old, I lost my beloved Nana, my Granddad and my dog all in the space of two weeks. A lot for anyone to cope with, let alone a 14year old. But I must have coped as here I am 60 years later and still just about in one piece.
However, in my opinion, none of those losses compares to losing a beloved husband so I now have a fresh challenge. Can I be brave again? Can I cope when I feel as though my world has come crashing down? Well, I have a loving family so I have no choice. I can’t bring more sadness on them. So - wish me luck and good luck to all the other people in my position.
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Dear AnnR,
I think you already show that you are very brave and making the choice to face your situation with the help of your loving family. Maybe that is also how you got through the devastating losses when you were 14? It makes such a difference to not have to face losses alone. It won’t take away the pain bit knowing others share some of that pain with you can be a great source of comfort. When my mum lost my dad after having been together for more than 60 years, she was devastated. What kept her going and slowly made things better was that she still had the love of her children and grandchildren. Wishing you strength and patience in your bereavement.
Jo64
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Thank you for your support and kind words. Your poor mum - I know just how she felt as my husband and I knew one another for 60 years and were married for 54 of them. As for when I was 14, I don’t think my parents helped me much then as they were grieving themselves, each having lost a parent and the dog.
Certainly having our children and their husbands and four wonderful grandchldren is helping me, but then I feel guilty that I am here with them and he isn’t. He adored his family and they adored him. We will get through this, I am sure but this forum certainly helps as i can rant at the injustice of it all.
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Can you be brave again? You are brave Ann and you can do this. Your man is still with you and will always be. With him in your heart you can do anything. Hold him close always. 
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Thank you so much for that x
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Thank you for understanding and taking the time to write. I hope things get better for you (and all of us in this unbearable situation).
Ann x