My son tragically passed yesterday 10/09/2023, he was only 23. I just don’t know what to do, I feel numb. I don’t know how to go about sorting things out. I also lost my dad 13/08/2023 I feel like I can’t go on without my son.
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Hi @Lornaw
The first thing I say, breathe. To loose a parent is heartbreaking, to loose a child, so young, is deviating, I am so sorry for your losses. When someone we love so much passes, it’s a big shock, a lot of people, myself included, go on autopilot, or feel numb, it takes time for the shock to sink in. As for “what to do”, this is your grief journey, you do what you feel you need to do, & what your ready to do, I’ve often found talking on this forum helps, there’s always someone here to listen, & you can say as much or as little as is comfortable. Sending hugs of support.
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I am so sorry and yes the pain is awful. If like me your head feels like fog, mine did in the early days. Have you got anyone to be with you and comfort you. All I can say is this site is amazing, just keep messaging anything anytime. We all help each other. Minute by minute. I lost my son in March to a drugs overdose. It’s the only place where people understand. Take care xx
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My son over dosed on drugs aswell. He was on prescribed drugs for bi polar and anxiety and took non prescribed drugs to make him feel numb, he chocked on his own vomit. I’m devastated. Finding it so hard to digest. He was my baby, I have 5 children and now we have lost one so our jigsaw is broken and will never be the same. How did you carry on. I just don’t know how x
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I’ve got 2 younger children who don’t really understand what is going on so we are trying to carry on for them but it is so hard x
I’m so sorry for your loss .
I lost my son 11 weeks ago so understand how you are feeling .
Some good advice I was given is to take one hour / day at a time . Don’t think ahead to how we will live without them because that is an impossible thought .
Remember you are not alone
xx
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@Lornaw
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my son almost two years ago (8/10/21) to an accidental overdose. Like previously mentioned on the site my advice is take it hour by hour, day by day.
Although I have only recently joined this site it’s helped me so much. You are not alone, there are lots of Mums & Dads out there going through terrible times. xx
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This site is amazing and the kindness shown. It’s my lifeline xx
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So sorry to hear about your son. My daughter had bipolar and she died in similiar circumstances. I found it doubly heartbreaking because she had such a dreadful time trying to cope with her mental health and she fought so hard. Tho she died of an overdose I think it was bipolar that killed her one way or another. It is such an awful illness and undermines families and loved ones. I miss her every hour xxxxxxx
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Thank you for your message, I’m so sorry to hear about your daughter. My son also struggled with his mental health I tried so hard to get him the help he needed but we were just ignored. Many of times he was taken to hospital and told it was all in his head. They fobbed us off all the time.
I know that feeling very well Lornaw
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Hi I have not posted for a while but after several really bad days thought I would catch up with parents who like me have lost a child and understand the enormity of it.I am a widow of 12 years and as we go through life we lose grandparents parents sometimes a sibling friends all so devastating.Losing my husband was so sudden and such a shock our only child our son though grieving himself was my rock.He then also passed away 9th March 2022.To lose a child in my case an only child is the worse thing ever.My heart is broken .We were so close he was so loving and caring .My mind goes over and over every little thing he said and did and also how he suffered .I cry every day to hold him hug to hear him say I LOVE YOU MUM I wish! I get out have joined groups and it may or may not have helped I really dont know .I am not too bad and then I can go for days non stop crying and yearning to have my boy back.I feel as though I am waiting for something and for each day to end .I am sure you will all understand.Personally I really dont think there is any answer except just get through each day.Will we see our loved ones again who knows.?I just know spending the rest of my life without my husband and son is an unbearable thought
Love hugs and hopefully peace of mind to you all.Marg x
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Marg1 i am so sorry for your loss.
I lost my youngest son 5 weeks ago suddenly and no reason yet!
I miss him painfully as we were so similar.
I find it hard that i wont see him again but dont know what to think.
He was so kind, patient and was soaring in life.
Cruel world and i dont care if i die to be honest, anything to beat the pain.
X
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Ruby my love and hugs to you.Thanks for your words for my loss.Its so very early days for you Ruby.There is really nothing I can say to ease your heartache.Just keep getting up each day and try keep busy to make it to the end in whatevet way you can.All I can say is nobody but a parent can understand the devastation of losing a child.When I cry which is every day but when it happens in front of friends they ask has something triggered it.Yes I’ve lost my son.My love and thoughts to you Ruby from one mum to another xxxx
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Thank you Marg.
hard isnt it. I think about him all the tine literally.
My heart hurts.
Yes some people are so ignorant and ive had “do u have other children”!!
Yes but not sure what they were getting at.
Be strong is another one i dont like, cos i dont want to be strong.
Take care and thank you for your kindness xx
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Thinking of you Ruby if you ever want to just put down your thoughts and feelings send me a message xxxx Marg xxx
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