My partner’s dad died at the start of the year, then my mum died suddenly just a few weeks later. Both of our remaining parents are quite unwell now too, my dad seriously so.
When this all happened, a friend said that at least we’d be able to help each other, as we understood how the other was feeling. I’m not sure that’s been the case. If anything, I fear it’s pushed us further apart. We’re grieving in different ways, I am more vocal in how I’m feeling but he keeps it inside more.
I’m finding it really hard. I feel like I’m always talking about my mum, but don’t want to ignore how he’s feeling about his dad. I loved his dad very much too. But sometimes I feel my words and thoughts about mum spiralling, and it’s like I forget fir a moment that he’s going through it too.
Just wondered if anyone else had been in this position, and if you could offer any advice please?