Hello,
I’m just reaching out for some advice…
I lost my best friend & Mum just over 2 months ago… very quickly. Cancer. She was only late 50’s.
Day to day my grief changes I have better moments than others but on the whole I think I should be proud of myself and how I am ‘managing’ - having a 2 year old little boy has got me through in many ways. But of course I’m still very much in the early days of my grief however I’m really struggling with everyone else around me ‘carrying on’
In particular my husbands family… his parents, his grandparents…
I’m finding it hard with his parents cause neither of them have lost a parent I feel irritated they have no idea of this pain I’m feeling.
There very social together as a family unit I can’t bare it.
I’m sure there being sensitive towards me and my situation but there lives haven’t changed. I feel they forget how mine has.
My husband is a wonderful person & it’s hard for him to know what to say or do neither of us have ever experienced loss.
I don’t want to offend him by saying I’m struggling with ‘life carrying on’ particularly with your family. But My world has stopped.
I don’t even know what to say to him to help me I just feel he’s slipping back to everyday life that’s how he wants deal with it (as I acknowledge he was close to my mum he’s lost too) but it’s not how I want to cause I can’t. All I want to do is dwell on my grief and sadness for now and not socialise like I’m ‘ok’
Hope that makes sense & I don’t sound like an ungrateful person.
Thanks in advance