Really struggling today. Found out this week that my ex husband has died. As a family we have been trying to track him down for years. I was looking on Internet on Monday and a deceased estates notice came up. It is such a shock as I found it while trying to contact him.
Eventually found a friend who contacted an old friend who I rang. He told me that Neil had been lost at sea in 2013 but just declared dead as they never found a body.
I am a complete mess, and so are my grown-up children , we had all hoped we would see him again
I feel like a widow, but because I was divorced, no one understands how we feel. None of us wanted the marriage to end so there was more closure there and no facts, body or grave to help us grieve.
We are all falling apart
What do I do