Feel lost since my mum passed

My mum passed away 2 weeks before Christmas to cancer which was a shock as she went down hill so quickly. I was there when she passed away. Since then I’m so lost and lonely it was just me and mum at home the house is so cold and empty. I have family and friends around me but I’m starting to feel like a burden to them as the phone calls,texts are starting to stop already. I’m planning my mums funeral by myself. Christmas was hard but new year was even harder as was on my own not one person texted me or rung me. I just want my mum back I miss her so much

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Hi Lou5
Sorry to hear about your mum it’s so hard isn’t it, I lost my mum in July and I still can’t accept she’s gone, for you just 2 weeks before Christmas is just so heartbreaking, I struggle most days I too was with my mum when she passed away after having cared for her at home for just 6 weeks after her diagnosis, never feel your a burden to anyone she was your mum and no one can prepare you for such a massive loss in your life, I will never be the person I was before I lost my mum, they say take a day at a time that’s all you can do, remember to look after you, this site is amazing to chat to people who are going through the same emotional journey always here for a chat
Take care
Lynn xx

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Hello Lou.
So sorry. I lost my Mum too two weeks before Xmas. We had the service yesterday. She had Alzheimer’s and went into hospital for a chance to fix something but she passed away there. No dignity no compassion. We lived in same house too. I hope today is kind with you and there is respite even if just a little. Kind thoughts x

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I too lost my mum 2 weeks before Xmas and like you it was just me and her in the house and it’s just horrible now it’s just me. I still have her cat in the house but he keeps looking for her which believe it or not is very upsetting.
I have family literally in the doorstep but because we’re not close they just consider me now totally alone and I think if that helps them then they can think what they want :woman_shrugging:.
Luckily I have great friends and my goddaughter but like you the texts/calls are already thinning out.

Can’t believe my whole world has changed so much in this last month and feel like an imposter in my own life as don’t recognise much anymore.

If you ever want to chat myself and others are here for you x

Just wanted to say thank you for your kind words. Sometimes you think your the only person going through it. I watch mums family and friends acting normal I feel like I will never be able to go back to how I was before. Today was hard receiving mums eulogy and order of service just another reminder that she isn’t here.

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Its been five years since my mother passed and I believe you just have to take it one day at a time. Christmas and New Year are always difficult. My mother and brother lived here with me but my mother’s passed and my brother has moved into a new place. Its very lonely living here now but all my memories are here as it was my parents house and that is precious. I have hardly any family left in this country and they just get on with their own lives - never a phone call from them. As I said you just have to take it one day at a time. It hurts so much because they meant so much to us.
Happy New Year to all of you.


Today has been a hard day as I went to see my mum for the final time. It’s the first time today that she didn’t look like my mum the other times I visited she did. I’m finding hard to digest that I won’t see my mum again now in person obviously we have the funeral next week but the coffin will be shut. I don’t think it’s really hit me till today I just miss her so much

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Oh I can empathise with you :100: :disappointed:

I found video footage of my mum a few days ago and I just can’t get head round that I will never hear her laugh in real life again.

You are braver than me as I was there when she died and I couldn’t bear going to see her afterwards but I don’t regret not going but I admire everyone who does.

I hope the funeral goes as well as it can for you and if you wanna chat we’re all here for you x

Hi Lou
So sorry for your loss .My mum passed away on Christmas Day in hospital. I spoke to her Christmas morning but 2pm she had passed . She battled a long illness Still finding it hard to sink in .
Please feel free to message if you need to talk.
We all be here for each other x

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Thank you for the reply. I know if I didn’t see mum I would regret no matter how hard it was seeing her. I’m sorry for your loss aswell its not easy is it this is the bit they don’t perpare you for x

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