I’m feeling down today and have felt it coming on over the weekend, I had a good few days and it just hit me from nowhere!
It seems so stupid coping one minute then feeling hopeless,lost and angry I wish it would get better I just don’t know what to do about it I know its natural and part of grieving but it’s so horrible! Will it ever get any better?
Hi, and sorry for your loss. What you’re feeling is very normal. Grief seems to come in waves, some have said a tsunami rather than a wave. I’m seven months in now after losing my partner of forty years. At the five months stage I thought I was feeling a bit lighter, but in the past couple of months everything has taken a dive and the darkness has returned. Grief is like a monster waiting for you around the corner, it jumps out when you least expect it. You are still very early on in your grief but there is really no set pattern or timeline when you’ll feel better. Keep posting on here it gives your feelings validation. Take care,
Hi ABi, I have had a couple of off days this weekend but on the whole it’s not the same as It was a month ago. I hope things improve bit by bit. I know there are going to be bad times but lets hope they are easier to cope with. When I feel bad I get out and walk, It helps Wishing you lots of strength.
All the best
Tom
Dear ABI 2
I had a really nice weekend then yesterday afternoon was awful, panic and devastating loss. It felt like payback for relaxing.
Today I’ve kept busy (lots of tea breaks and checking in here) this group has been the place I go to when I’m down. Not always to post, sometimes just to see how everyone is getting on.
I hope tomorrow is a better day x
I get those down days too. You think you’re doing ok, then suddenly hit by a wave of grief and sadness. Because my anxiety is quite bad anyway, it can really knock you off balance. Xx
Dear Lg
I think focusing on something else calms me down. That’s why this group has helped so much. I feel like I’m checking in on friends x
Dear Helen
That’s how I feel, it’s comforting to me checking in here with you all. Helps me so much. X LJ
Dear ABi2,
I lost my beloved wife almost 9 months ago.
The grief process is a very long uphill struggle.
As time passes things will become a little bit easier but there will be setbacks.
Being truly happy is, in my opinion, a thing of the past.
In the very long run I expect my “happiness level” to be “tolerable”.
The grief and the pain will always be present, but in the long run they will fade away a bit into the background.
I’m just glad that I didn’t burden my beloved Fanny with this.
She always calls me her “bodyguard and guardian Angel”, which I love to be.
And I was with her up to the very last moment.
Sending strength your way!
We will be reunited with our loved ones in Heaven and that reunion will be forever!
Kind regards - Joe
Thanks all who read my post hope you are ok. I know you are going through the same process it’s nice to know that someone understands how I’m feeling! here’s hoping for a better day ahead the weekends don’t help just have to keep busy.
Hi ABi2, I lost my Norman almost 6 weeks ago, I thought I was getting a bit better the last few days, but I have been crying and feeling so sad today. It surely must get a bit better as time goes by, I am definitely not as despairing as the first 4 or 5 weeks. Wishing you some peace for the evening.
Helen
Hi Helen 20 sorry for your loss I lost my husband in January it’s so hard feeling the way we do but we will get through it ! Sending love and hugs to you!
Love and hugs to you too. xx
Hi ABi2, My beautiful husband died suddently 2 and half months ago. I have “tolerable days” when I just cry every hour or two, fall on my bed or hide in the nearest toilet or in my car asking “why why why???!!” in between work or going about doing chores etc. Then there are some horrid days when I am devastated and feel I can’t go on, with huge anxiety and pain, though after a while I get busy with something or talk to someone or read some messages here and manage to survive yet another day. I hate what my life has become , Still lately I have more “tolerable” days that just flat-out horrible but I would never have imagined that just crying in deep sadness and loneliness every other hour would become my definition of an ok day!
Hello, I have cried every day since February 26. Some days are better than others, but sometimes I do feel like just throwing a tantrum 
life is so unfair, I miss my beautiful husband. It’s been 8 awful weeks. 
… take care. God bless
Dear Helen
It does get easier some of the time. I’ve just had a lovely weekend staying with my sister. There were a few tears but it was a weekend without sobbing and panic. Maybe that how it goes, longer periods without that desperate feeling of loss and loneliness. I know I’ll always miss my husband and I know there will be times like yesterday when all I wanted was to hear his voice.
I’m coping, I’m muddling through, it’s hard but I’m getting there. We all will, we have no choice. Everything I do, I think is this what you would want me to do.
It’s 10 months for me, early days for you but we’ll all survive and make them proud x
Hi Lucy, Helen,Anita,ABi and Helen I hope you all have a peaceful evening and tomorrow you all have a better day after a good night’s sleep. Together helping each other we will find away to live in peace with our situation. I wonder whether all our loved ones are together watching us. Let’s hope they are sending us energy to survive.
Wishing you all the best
Tom
Tom, you are so kind, thank you, you have a good night as well. Take care , im sure our loved ones are having a good ol time. 
I know everyone on here helps me day to day. It can be so lonely at times, so all of you help, hopefully we do help each other. Thank you Tom lovely words.
Dear Tom
I remember when when my mom died, I was devastated. I had looked after her for more than 6 years with dementia, the last nine months she could do nothing not even walk or talk. For a long time after hearing certain songs would have me in floods of tears. Then one day I realised I was smiling when one of her favourites came on the radio. That’s what I’m hoping for us all, one day we’ll smile at a memory.
Isn’t it cruel!
Almost get in a semi stable place. Though sleep continued to be awful. I have really struggled last few days. All seems so pointless again 
Just saying out loud!