My husband suddenly had a cardiac arrest on the 1st of September 2025 I had to do cpr for 19 minutes while waiting for ambulance and I had to turn his life support off on the 6th of September I am feeling so guilty and asking myself if I did the right thing
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Leannemitch.
I am so so sorry you are on this path. I know how you feel. On the 24th of January 2025, so a year ago. My wife had just had her first chemotherapy session. She was breathing funny, I was on the phone for a ambulance, she got up and was reaching for me. When she collapsed, I had to do cpr till the Ambulance arrived. When I got to the hospital, I got told her heart had stopped at least twice on the way down and with the cancer. They didn’t know what condition she was in. I think they had made up their minds. They went to check on her again. The machines were the only thing. So I had to say the words, what will haunt me for the rest of my life. Let her go, just let her go. I sat with her, when they took the machines away, I see It every day.
We are not doctors or medical professionals. I know it was the right thing to do, but yes I still feel guilty. The what ifs are hard.
Please look after yourself.
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Please don’t feel guilty. You both did everything you could to save your loved ones. Please be kind to yourselves. I held my husband until he passed last November. I hoped, I prayed, I would have done anything to keep him. We all did our utmost. Be kind to yourselves please. Sending you both hugs
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