I lost my Mum in September 2025. She went in for a double hip surgery and had a stroke that lead to a fatal brain bleed and I, alongside one of my brothers and my Dad, had to make the decision to not operate on her brain essentially meaning that she would die. I was in the hospital for 4 days with her, singing her lullabies she sung me when I was a child but she was in a coma so I had no response. Just before she fell into a coma she was in destress and it was harrowing to watch. It is almost 5 months on now and her side of the family has abandoned us. My siblings have all left the country and I moved back home to make things easier for my Dad and run my Mums business until he is ready to take it over. I feel on auto pilot and I’m unsure when I’m going to feel joy again. The monotonous tasks of the everyday and the fact that I am so far away from my siblings has really caught up to me. Emotionally supporting my Dad as well as completing all of the household chores on top of working has left me burnt out. Does anyone else have experiences similar to mine? I am unsure how to care for someone when there is no one to care about me.
I’m so sorry about your mum, @Lu7, and for how unsupported you’re feeling when trying to support your dad. You deserve care and support too.
I just wanted to give your thread a gentle bump as I can see you posted a little while ago. I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support.
Take good care,
Seaneen
I’m so sorry to hear this and for the very sad loss of your mum. It sounds like you did an amazing job at the hospital, singing to her and making sure she knew she was loved, even at great emotional cost to yourself.
I’m sorry also that you are, understandably, finding it so difficult and have no one to look after you. I hope and pray that things get better and you try and look after yourself as best you can - a gentle walk in nature, some soothing music, even a hot scented bath, just simple things. Remember that we are all here on this forum to reach out to. Thinking of you 